I decided to use my fatherly voice last Saturday. It’s a voice that only my wife and my child have heard. I don’t like that voice, and I’m sure that if you’re a parent, you don’t like yours either.

We had a rough, whirlwind kind of day. Well, our child mostly. They’re going through a transition in their life, and it rocks their emotional world like few things have before. Laughter and crying follow each other in quick succession.

Around lunch we got into an argument, about lunch, because they hated what their mother had prepped. That’s cool, freedom of speech and all. But our acceptance wasn’t what they expected, so the situation escalated. Voices were raised, tears were shed. I apologized and made amends the best I could, then we decided it was prime time for the afternoon nap. You can imagine that was a failure too. I felt helpless, because I had plans to squeeze in a different article during those two hours. That failed as well.

I was in the room with them, but my mind was still at my desk. At that moment there was no space left in me for what they were feeling.

We all thought we’d be different. We did everything we could not to follow in our parents’ footsteps, only to shamefully hear them again, speaking in our tone.

The reason behind the shame is simple, and that’s what makes it heavy. We know our children’s prefrontal cortex is way underdeveloped and only reaches full development around the age of 25. It’s unreasonable to expect them to regulate their emotions until then. But try telling this to an emotionally exhausted parent after a day of volatile emotional swings. Do you see what I just did here? I can cognitively deconstruct the entire emotional car wreck. Do you think it helps me when I lose my cool after our child disrespects their mother, my wife, the love of my life? Not a tiny bit.

The aftermath is well known: a child sobbing, parents feeling ashamed. And shame doesn’t give us wiggle room. It takes the little we had left, so the next afternoon starts with lowered eyes already. No matter how tough you think you are, your child will push your emotional triggers like nothing else, and we’re both professional helpers who’ve seen some shit. Most of us were never shown how to do this part, and we’re learning it while our child pushes every button we have.

I’m not going to tell you to become fully Zen. That’s unrealistic, and whoever promises you’ll never lose your shit as a parent is lying to you.

I think what matters more is three connected things: how often it happens, correction, and emotional availability.

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This is part 2 of our look at energy vampires. In Who Is Draining Who(m)? we started with our friend Jeff who seems to always be sapping our energy, leaving us feeling depleted and a little frustrated. He needs us all the time but never seems to have time for us when we need him.

We finished off the last article with a few questions. But how do I protect my energy? Every time I give without reciprocity, I feel drained and exhausted. I can’t just give all the time, I’ve heard there are energy vampires, and I feel Jeff might be one of them. How do you deal with them?

“It’s empty in the valley of your heart

The sun, it rises slowly as you walk

Away from all the fears

And all the faults you’ve left behind”¹

It’s important that I explain my baseline thoughts on this so that where I’m coming from will make sense. There is one energy available to us at all times. The energy of love. Not the beautiful, tender, needy, greedy, conditional human love. The love that makes the mushrooms and the trees talk. The love that creates a raindrop. This energy of love never goes anywhere. Nobody can own it.

You can’t insult it out of someone or withhold it to get what you want. Nobody can take this love from you. It’s literally who we all are underneath the often-dysfunctional programming. You can turn on this tap of love and let it run through you 24/7 and the flow will only continue getting stronger. Human relationships come with scorecards. That’s the way that we’re taught it works. Give some, get less, bad. Give some, get more, good followed immediately by, we need to even the scales.

Always giving without receiving anything in return does feel draining, we give you that, and argue your energy being drained and the bitter feeling you might feel starts with you. The tension you feel is real, not everyone out there is looking for ways not to cause harm or fill the holes in your heart.

We hear you saying submissively: “I’m tired of giving, I feel exhausted and have lost all my motivation to hold the relationship on my shoulder alone. I need this to end.”

Before jumping to conclusions, let’s exhale and take a step back. Let’s try a thought experiment and shift perspectives for 5 minutes. Try to imagine an unbothered garden that your grandmother might call neglected, almost wild. When you look at this garden, what feels out of place to you? What would you intuitively like to remove?

Under the shades of old trees with winding canopies, among lush bushes that shelter a vast animal kingdom, and right next to flowers providing a table for pollinators you might see plants that are harsh and unapologetic as they strive for the sun’s attention.

The weeds you might be thinking of have a reputation similar to energy vampires, seemingly draining valuable energy that we instinctively try to protect and keep as much as we can for ourselves. If you had an amazing childhood toddling around after your grandmother as she worked in her garden, the urge to remove every weed might feel like second nature to you. It is a projection, however.

This projection feeds on the ego’s struggle with being alone. In our minds this selective exclusion creates an environment where all the energy present could be absorbed by what we consider important: trees, bushes, flowers, and ourselves. Survival cannot happen through selfishness.

Let’s be honest. Without our sense of separation, none of us would have made it this far. “Thanks ego, for all the years of not standing in fires or launching ourselves off cliffs thinking we’re invincible. But look, things have gotten a bit out of hand.”

For most of us, we’ve let the ego take over completely and experience being separate from others as our reality. We spend our whole lives trying to figure out how to feel connected from that place.

Love, encouragement, support from others, connect us to that place in ourselves where those things exist. Our connection to the limitless energy of love is always there, regardless of what we think is given to us from outside. If we disconnect from others from anywhere but that place, we will continue to be separate. This can feel like an impossibly big ask of ourselves.

Watching Jeff ignore my calls until he needs me, talk about himself endlessly, always ask me for things, these are all examples of him suffering in his sense of separateness.

With energy, there’s nothing to protect. It is not yours, theirs, or anyone else’s.

Permaculture is based on a simple idea: grow plants only in habitats where their ecological needs can be met. If a plant dies because of a weed, it was never in the right place to begin with. In nature, everything is in balance. Trees need bushes to shelter smaller animals, which help keep the habitat in check, not letting anything dominate. Trees and shrubs need flowers to cover the ground to prevent it from drying out. In return, the trees will provide protective shade from the harsh midday sun in summer. And the weeds?

They signal that a vital nutrient is missing from the soil. Their job is to help restore that nutrient and “force” plants around them to survive their struggle. If the plants succeed, they become stronger, and the weeds eventually retreat. This can happen if the nosy gardener waits long enough and allows nature to restore its balance on its own. In this way, the energy remains where it belongs: in the soil and in every living being, no matter how small.

Something that never runs out. When we experience being separate from others and from love, we leak energy. Physical energy, mental energy. This drain can also manifest as righteousness wearing an anger suit or the frustration of unmet expectations. The obvious culprit is the other. Any other.

Take a 2-year-old throwing a tantrum at the grocery store. They’re doing this because something is challenging their sense of identity. Maybe they missed their nap, or you just put the box of sugar cereal that they swept into the cart back on the shelf. Their anger/sadness/frustration isn’t taking anything from you, it can’t, but it feels exhausting. We can show frustration, pick them up and put them in the cart, tell them to stop crying. The one thing that will determine how it goes is where the action comes from. Is it a place of love? Of embarrassment of what other people think? Of anger or frustration because kids are supposed to listen?

Getting through to them at such a time can only be done if the action comes from love. It’s the same with Jeff and it’s the same with your least favorite politician. Sometimes we need to put people out of our life, but we need to put them out with love. This is important, not put them out with human love, a love that judges and expects. Put them out with an “I see you there stuck in your skin suit and man this time around’s been a doozy. I’m not hanging around for any more of your karma, but I love you so much”.

The first step toward accepting love as a universal energy is intellectual, and it takes courage. It asks you to understand the emotional consequences of being attached to your ego’s desires and to accept that energy does not belong to anyone. It is ours to share. Within our garden, we cannot remove something without facing the consequences. There might be a small being whose entire life depends on the plant we label a weed. If we tip the scales by removing it, we might disturb a balance we never noticed.

If the idea remains vague, try this someday when you feel the pull: help someone without expecting anything in return, and mean it. Do it for the love of life. Do it with an open heart, and accept them as they are, but do not tell them what you are doing. Do not imply that you are above them, because no one is. We are one. Their struggle will resonate with you, and your alignment will inspire others.

Remember the weeds we wanted to pull. We mistook them for pests, even though the garden needed them too. If you remove them, you also remove the vitality that could contribute to further growth. Jeff might not be in a place where he can give with love, but his behavior signals something to you: you still expect something from him.

Allow your heart to break open and understand that there is nothing you can hold on to, only love.

“So come out of your cave, walking on your hands

And see the world hanging upside down

You can understand dependence

When you know the maker’s land”²

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^1&2: The Cave - Mumford & Sons

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Table of Content (ToC)

1. Why I Write at All?

   1. Why I switched off Pangram

2. Brief Origin Story - Csaba

3. Capillary Grooves

4. My Stance on Coaching

   1. Style of Coaching

5. Topics I’ll Continue to Write About

   1. The Style, Rhythm & Soul

   2. My own self-development

   3. Marriage and continuous reconnection

   4. Parenting I believe in and practice

   5. The love affair of business and burnout

   6. Professional and ethical coaching

6. Paid Options - Toss a Coin to Your Fellow Writer

   1. Paid Tier

   2. Founding Tier - Inside the Grooves

   3. Referral Program

7. What to Read First

   1. A fragment of the mirror

   2. A piece on marriage

   3. A fraction of the story os my burnout

8. Farewell for Now

   1. Contact Csaba

9. References

Why I Write at All?

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I’ve always worked internationally and I think it’s one of the best feelings in the world when you experience true connection with someone who’s a small world away from you. Writing is my vehicle to create that connection.

When I don’t listen, I tend to think deeply about the experiences that continue to shape my days. Writing helps me collect my thoughts and organize them better to reflect on them again, sometimes even months later.

But of course I’m not here to have an online journal. I’m here to find those who are in need of emotional support, to help them reconnect to their emotions and to live a fuller, more grounded life.

This publication might be for you if:

• You felt alone even when you were not alone.

• You learned how to suppress emotions but nobody helped you to express them.

• You believe that professionalism and emotional regulation can coexist.

• You want to become successful but not at the cost of your well-being.

• You’re interested in experiments instead of textbooks.

My writing offers you a glimpse into how I think and what I stand behind. It’s more of an expression than a self-help guide as you can’t replace the real work of self-development with reading. You have to put in the work yourself, but I’m here to guide you if you wish to work on your troubles.

Why I switched off Pangram

The more I work with people and am around them the more I realize how divided we are and my heart bleeds for us. I do whatever I can within my close and extended circles to rebuild connections instead of destroying them. I strongly believe the use of Pangram in general is not a step in the right direction, and I don’t support it. This is my opinion, you’re free to disagree with me, but you won’t be able to use it on my publication moving forward. Let me tell you how I write instead in the spirit of transparency, then choose for yourself.

English is my second language. I started to learn it back when I was around four or five years old by the grace of my parents. I remember hating it because I had no clue why I should bother at all. Then when I started to listen to American hip-hop I realized I didn’t understand a thing and that tension created one of the strongest wills within me, to understand what rappers had to say. I became somewhat obsessed and passed language exams one after another - partly because my mother insisted - to achieve more free time in high school. You see, in Hungary if you take language exams at C1 level, you can bypass other major exams and can collect more points toward university application. I passed the IELTS exam with a result of 8 before turning seventeen. All that way before even the idea of AI.

Fast forward a couple of years and I found myself learning economics at university in English in a completely international setting. I completed the entire program without a hiccup, writing my thesis in English too. During this time I started my international tech career that resulted in me speaking and writing more in English than in Hungarian. I’m comfortable saying that I love to communicate in English as it enables a different personality. It also opened up possibilities for me, that are out of reach for a lot of my peers and I could connect with brilliant people across the globe.

All that said, writing articles on a weekly basis is a serious effort and pressure at times. I do face the same writers block that you do and it would be a lie if I said I never thought about outsourcing “content creation“ to a chatbot. It is a low-hanging fruit after all. But I resist. Here’s my entire flow, for integrity:

1. I struggle with a blank page to get a grip on my own ideas and to make sense of them.

2. I write what I can come up with as they are, often re-editing while writing because sometimes certain ideas make sense in different parts of a given article.

3. I give the entire article to Claude and ask it to poke holes in my argument and be brutally honest with me, if something is left dangling, vague, or doesn’t make sense and such. At this stage I also ask it to suggest if I was negligent with idioms or phrases, pointing to ideas that don’t translate well between my languages. This happens more than you might think. After one or two passes I also ask it to check my grammar and punctuation and it highlights any leftover typos too.

4. I then ask it to create a three-sentence-excerpt for my blog, a two-sentence-TL;DR and SEO descriptions based on my titles.

5. If I didn’t plan it beforehand, I also ask it to go over my taxonomy file to find possible internal link opportunities. This is a rabbit hole on its own as I live in Excel.

6. When everything’s ready on the writing side, I dig up my own photographs that I take during the practice of the hobby and edit them with my own hands. Every click made by me, I don’t let algorithms touch my photography. Tried once, it was horrendous.

7. After all this, it’s “merely“ publishing and promotion across my blog/newsletter Substack, IG, Pinterest, Medium (abandoned this). During this step I also write distinct captions and what you can think of.

8. Rinse and repeat, weekly on average. The only thing that’s left is being engaged within the community, again, written by my own hands. Every. Single. Word.

If you speak more than one language, you can imagine this all takes real effort, I do put my sweat and tears into my work. I don’t expect you to give me slack, however. It was my decision to publish in English and I accept the challenge it brings. I love it actually. With this challenge I’ve learned more in one year than in some of my previous positions. I’m dedicated to getting better with every article I write, this is a promise. At the same time I believe in quality as a former Quality Assurance Analyst myself and I think you, as the reader, deserve to read something that’s worthy of your attention. If I can create better quality by asking a tool to criticize my writing before you turn away because the quality is subpar, I’ll sure as hell try at least. But the stories, images, conclusions, struggles, insights, metaphors are all mine. Always were, always will be. But until I can afford a human editor, I have to lean on technology here. I thank you for your understanding.

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Brief Origin Story - Csaba

I'm Csaba, husband, father, nerd, recovering overachiever, empath, professional coach. I don't know yet what you're going through, I feel it.

I have worked in 13 different industries, always with people, solving their challenges.

Wherever I went, I became a trusted work friend for groups of people. A manager – who didn't even work with me – told me that he rarely saw such a magnetic leader who gathered people around him so effortlessly. At that time, I spent 3 days in the office – monthly.

I'm an advocate of boundaries. If a position felt off, I tried to fix what was wrong every time. When it didn't change for the better, I handed in my resignation. I have one life; I won't spend it miserably.

By training, I'm an economist, having acquired a diploma in business administration and management. I planted my flag for ethical leadership and wrote my first thesis back in 2018 about supporting leaders through professional coaching.

In 2019, I was already back at university learning how to become a professional coach. To put my knowledge to the test, I jumped back into the fastest-growing industry, tech.

Deep in my heart – forever – I'll remain a software tester as I ferociously hate when software is a pain in the butt to use for humans, and I spent 8 years making sure bugs wouldn't reach users through negligence.

In parallel, I became a release manager, scrum master, and program manager (while also testing on the side) to support teams in sustainable and predictive product delivery. At its peak, I supported 150 people across 15 teams spanning 2 product clusters. You can imagine how my calendar looked.

I lived and breathed pressure for 10 years. I burned out at least three times, the last one being a major one that slapped me in the face so hard that I decided to change dramatically.

Supporting my own self-development, I spent years in therapy and receiving coaching myself, because I believe physical capabilities are only as strong as the mental foundation beneath them.
The connection is not far-fetched – I was a semi-professional basketball player through elementary school, high school, and university.

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Capillary Grooves

When I thought of launching a coaching business, I knew I wouldn’t want to redesign everything once I got off the ground, so I decided against using my family name as the brand name.

I’m also ambitious and don’t plan to travel alone for long. Once I've found my footing, the plan is to invite other coaches who just want to help people actually reach those people without the burden of running a full-blown business. The more the merrier.

Capillary stands for the ongoing and distributed nourishment that resonates with how nature grows, slowly but confidently, without dramatic intervention. Everything’s connected and the circle of life never stops.

Grooves stands for the deep cuts we might experience through our lives but choose to accept and eventually grow around. It represents all the hardworking souls who might feel alone even when they are not, and it speaks to my motivation to lend them a helping hand and calm presence. And a nod to music that shaped who I am today.

We should try our best not to leave anyone behind and give everyone a chance to become their truest self, whatever that might mean for them. But it’s them who have to figure that out, my practice is merely a tool on this journey.

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My Stance on Coaching

You feel it and I feel it with you, there’s a disturbance in the force². The coaching industry turned itself inside out. We can argue whose fault it was, but let’s get inspired and innovate instead, let’s find what’s really behind the curtain of professional coaching.

I fully believe in the power of it, however. My own mental health, marriage, emotional availability as a father, and general success in my career are all better for it. But I also know where its usefulness ends.

Style of Coaching

I follow a humanistic style of coaching that accepts everyone as the true expert of their life while also appreciating the struggle of everyday personal and business life.

This approach makes no distinction between life coaching, business coaching, executive coaching, or any other label you might put on it. Behind every challenge there’s a person and their soul that feels lost, or even hurt. My work always remains with the person and their soul.

I also believe that we tend to limit our possibilities by thinking inside boxes or comfort zones. That’s the reason I don’t rely on arbitrary frameworks and N-step programs to put clients in another box.

Everything above wouldn’t be authentic if you couldn’t have a glimpse into my personality. That’s why I write through my experiences to give you a chance to meet me and my thinking before starting to work together.

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Topics I’ll Continue to Write About

I won’t add to all the writing that’s about frameworks and quick wins. I also try my best so you don’t feel ashamed of whatever choices you’ve made so far. Instead, I offer you an invitation to see how I see the world as a whole.

The Style, Rhythm & Soul

Sometimes serious, usually quirky, but always landing somewhere that feels authentic. I've drawn parallels from pop culture before (movies mainly) or referenced music that I love, such as lyrics from hip-hop. Great storytellers also inspire me so I try to mimic them sometimes.

I’ll also try to keep my writing on the positive side (without forcing it) because I think ranting all the time is exactly like dropping a cat that has buttered bread attached to its back, it will never land.

I’ll aim to send articles weekly that might require you to sit still for 5 minutes, sometimes less. I might become irresistibly inspired to publish one or two more, or might take a mental health break. Besides, life can also be unpredictable, so let’s stay flexible.

Stories draw from my experience, my observations and the soul behind it is constantly a work in progress, so strap in, the ride might be bumpy sometimes. I’ll give you no advice, I’m not a guru, but someone who’s doing self-work alongside you.

My own self-development

Just in the past six months, I spent more than 60 hours on my own self-development through supervision (coaching and therapy), because working on myself is what ethical coaching practice requires.

Nobody is ever “complete“ and I stand behind that, so I’ll keep on working on myself, providing new insights regularly. These new insights will be infused into my writing and reflections, sometimes deserving standalone pieces.

Marriage and continuous reconnection

My wife and I have been happily married for more than five years now and we plan to keep it that way, but it’s not always easy, we are both stubborn as hell and sometimes we let our egos get in the way. So, we both put in the effort to grow together.

Sometimes I reflect on when it’s not so dreamy to be married, always with her permission and only after we’ve buried the hatchet. Don't expect me to air our dirty laundry, but rather ideas on how we reconnected and kept it together, sharing the effort as equally as we could.

Parenting I believe in and practice

This will be the trickiest of all as we have a strict privacy policy when it comes to our child, meaning we’ll never share personal information about them until they come of age to decide for themselves, including photos, name and even gender.

Yes, it’s a struggle sometimes, but this is what we believe in.

Please don’t take offense at this if you’ve decided otherwise. You do you, and we’ll stay in our lane. I respect your decision and please respect ours.

On a different note, I do work with parents as well and I think it's important to show that I feel for them because I’m a father myself, with all the joy and responsibilities that come with it. So I might share what I learn along the way.

That will mainly include my goal to make myself gradually “redundant“ and let them learn at their own pace how to become physically, emotionally and intellectually independent. I won’t be here forever, you know. They have to figure things out on their own eventually. But I share whatever I know with them until that moment comes.

The love affair of business and burnout

Do you believe in astrology? I didn’t much, but I’m an Aries if this is important to you, which also translates into a drive in me like no other in my circle. If I set my mind to something I can run through proverbial walls. I’m wired like that and use it to achieve my dreams.

On some rare occasions it backfired though, and I’ve faced burnout from the inside at least three times already, but I always found my way back to my calmer, truer self — thankfully. With the help of coaches and therapists.

This is important because I’ve always worked in competitive markets that required me to stay hungry and to push through challenges. I also fell deeply in love with building my own business, so when someone talks to me about business struggles, I know the feeling from the inside. Did I mention I’m a parent? Yeah, burnout can find you beside the crib as well.

I can help you to prevent the next breakdown.

Professional and ethical coaching

Maybe closest to my heart. Trust me, my stomach clenches harder than yours when an advisor/salesman/website builder disguises themselves as a “coach“ to sell you their program or whatever. I get it though, the market has shifted in that direction and their idea has been validated already.

I believe professional coaching is different in so many ways.

So instead of talking about them, I’ll focus on what I think is ethical and characterizes true-to-the-bone coaching. It's a profession that sits between therapy and consultancy, guided by ethics and grounded in boundaries. Fear not, it won’t be this dry.

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Paid Options - Toss a Coin to Your Fellow Writer³

My goal with this publication is to gently challenge your thinking through my own self-reflections.

I believe in energy flowing both ways. To make that possible, I've turned on the paid tier as an option. You can opt in or out whenever you feel like it, trust me, I’ll try not to lose sleep over it. It’s okay for you to read for free.

Turning on paid will remain an option since I don’t believe in (or own) frameworks in coaching, so there is no IP to be shared on this publication besides my photographs.

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Paid Tier

• Paid supporters will receive a free coaching session to tackle one short trouble they might be facing currently
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• Paid subscribers also unlock the perk of having a continuous 20% discount on my hourly rate for coaching for anyone close to them, for the entire coaching process

Founding Tier - Inside the Grooves

• Founding members will receive everything from the free and paid tiers, but receive a full complimentary coaching process of three separate sessions instead of just one session
  (30 minute intro + 3x60 minute coaching)

That’s it and I trust your decision, please do whatever your heart says.

Referral Program:

If you think my publication could provide value to somebody you care about, you’re invited to share it with them using the share button within the articles.

I’d appreciate your efforts in sharing with the world by granting you free access to the paid tier based on the number of referrals:

• 1 month free for 5 referrals

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What to Read First

A fragment of the mirror

A piece on marriage

A fraction of the story os my burnout

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References

¹: Link to a restack that inspired this idea.

²: Link to YouTube from Star Wars, what else my fellow padawan in self-development.

³: Link to Spotify as further proof of me being a nerd.

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