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5 Ways Bodywork Changed Me...and my s ❤️‍ x life.

Elena Rossi — Mon, 28 Sep 2026 22:42:40 GMT

One of the main reasons why I work as a trauma-release somatic bodyworker is because receiving somatic bodywork sessions healed me. Healed me in ways that nothing else has before!

And if you’ve been following me for years, you’ve felt this shift in me for sure.

I started my own healing journey at the age of 24. I’ve tried various therapists, practices an…

S❤️x Isn't a Performance. It's a Playground.

Elena Rossi — Thu, 03 Sep 2026 17:58:43 GMT

Sex isn’t perfect. Far from it. The harder we strain to make it perfect, the more we squeeze the life out of it.

Somewhere along the way, many of us began approaching sex as another performance to optimise, another skill to master or another area of our lives we should somehow excel at. In doing so, we forgot that sex was never supposed to feel like an o…

The Hidden Cost of Always Seeing the Good in People

Elena Rossi — Tue, 30 Jun 2026 18:55:08 GMT

There is one life lesson that completely changed the trajectory of my life, and I wish someone had taught it to me much earlier.

Ironically, I didn't learn it through years of studying psychology. I learnt it while taking an online program that completely transformed the way I relate to myself and the people around me.

For most of my life, I believed th…

A Conversation Every Woman Needs to Hear

Elena Rossi — Fri, 26 Jun 2026 19:14:50 GMT

Last week, I had the honour and pleasure of sitting down with the wonderful Vlada de Sousa for a conversation about female sexuality, safety, healing, relationships, and what it really means to come home to yourself.

I also shared a number of personal sexual practices with her during our chat.

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I love these kinds of conversations because they’re not about…

What If Healing Doesn't Mean Becoming "Nice"?

Elena Rossi — Tue, 16 Jun 2026 02:35:54 GMT

A few days ago, I posted a reel about my narcissistic ex.

In the reel, I joked how I give myself permission to be petty and how I still occasionally enjoying the thought of him suffering.

The internet had feelings.

Half the comments were cheering me on.

The other half informed me that I was clearly not healed, not evolved, and probably in desperate need of …

I Was Blind to My Attraction Pattern for 35 Years

Elena Rossi — Wed, 10 Jun 2026 21:39:41 GMT

If you’ve ever looked back at your dating history and wondered, “Why do I keep choosing people who are not good for me?” I think you’re going to love this story…

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I was 13 when a boy finally liked me. His name was Jeremy and he was a super sweet and gentle boy. He walked me to my classes, wrote me long secret notes and stuffed them into my locker, even in…

The 3 Books I Asked My Husband To Read Before We Ever Slept Together

Elena Rossi — Wed, 27 May 2026 19:36:58 GMT

I met my husband while solo-travelling through Mexico. We sat down at the same community table in a cute cafe and struck up a conversation the day before I left back home.

He asked me out. I spent my last night of a 3 month trip on the best date of my life. The next morning I flew to Amsterdam and we did not see each other again for 4 months. We spent e…

8 Qualities of a Couple who Still Want to Bang Each Other

Elena Rossi — Thu, 07 May 2026 01:21:22 GMT

Over the last 15 years, I’ve had the pleasure of being a witness to thousands of women’s sex lives. Even when I’m not working, people tend to open up to me about their personal lives - at dinner parties, on airplanes, during networking events, and even at baby showers! Recently my car driving instructor has been opening up about his sex life during our …

🔥 My 5 Most Powerful Transformations 🔥

Elena Rossi — Thu, 02 Apr 2026 21:18:35 GMT

One of the main reasons I work as a trauma-release somatic bodyworker is because receiving somatic bodywork sessions healed me. Healed me in ways that nothing else has.

Trauma-release body de-armouring and holotropic breathwork sessions changed my life and I will share with you the most obvious 5.

There are no quick solutions or one-stop-shops when it …

🔥 What to Expect in a Bodywork Session With Me

Elena Rossi — Fri, 27 Mar 2026 21:03:03 GMT

The industry standard for a somatic bodywork sessions is around 2 hours. That means that a professional can technically see up to 3 clients per day.

When I began doing this work back in 2018, it became very clear to me that
my approach would be very different.

Two hours is not enough to get to know a client, create safety and connection with her, do the…

Talking with Dope Ladies Heals my Soul

Elena Rossi — Fri, 06 Mar 2026 20:25:24 GMT

The other day I had the pleasure of being a guest on a podcast with Michelle Harrell - founder of Purple City Experience. She is a state-licensed psilocybin facilitator helping high achievers slow down, heal deeply, and reconnect with purpose.

Ever heard of a “wellness travel” concept?

Well, that’s Michelle for ya!

Michelle runs private retreats in Portla…

🔷 My Favourite Quality in a Lover 🔷

Elena Rossi — Tue, 24 Feb 2026 17:22:24 GMT

What are the qualities you most enjoy in a lover? What has a past or present lover done to make you go “Oh damn…I want to get naked with you forever!”

Are any of these qualities non-negotiable for you?

In this article, I will share with you my favourite quality in a lover - something they do that keeps me turned-on years into the relationship. A quality that I myself have begun to embody in my mid 30’s.

While some lovers embody this quality naturally, it is part of their character, others (like myself) are able to learn it.

The Difference That Changes Everything in Bed

Elena Rossi — Mon, 16 Feb 2026 22:26:00 GMT

Something has been sitting in my heart since our last Between the Sheets bookclub group call. (Our group zooms always leave my heart cracked wide open!)

One of the deepest healing paths for a woman (sexually, emotionally, spiritually) is the path from being a sexual object… to becoming a sexual subject.

And I want to explain this in very simple terms.

When…

When a Book Makes Sense but Your Body Doesn’t Trust It

Elena Rossi — Tue, 10 Feb 2026 19:50:07 GMT

This week, one of the women in my Between the Sheets Bookclub shared something that felt incredibly honest.

(We’ve been enjoying the club so much that I’ve added an extra zoom each month for us to stay connected and learn. Yay!)

We are currently finishing up a book about female arousal and pleasure. What I love most about this book is that it shows women…

Something I’m Devoting Myself to in 2026

Elena Rossi — Wed, 14 Jan 2026 18:48:46 GMT

Lately, I’ve been feeling a very clear pull.

Not toward something new and shiny but deeper. Deeper into the work that has always had my heart: touch, bodywork, nervous system, and the intelligence of the female body.

It has been five years since my last deep internal shift. And now I am itching for another deep dive…

So I wanted to share something with you…

What's your Flavour?

Elena Rossi — Fri, 09 Jan 2026 20:14:21 GMT

Lately, I’ve been feeling into the year ahead in a very different way.

Instead of making a huge list of to-do’s and endless goals — I ask myself a few simple questions:
What do I want more of? What do I want to live inside of next year? What am I curious to explore?

From that listening I choose a single word for the year. I use this word as my ongoing them…

This is the Medicine of Being Seen

Elena Rossi — Sun, 28 Dec 2025 20:01:38 GMT

There is something ancient and sacred about women gathering together. We think we’re “just talking” or “just venting” but what’s actually happening inside the female nervous system is far deeper — and far more necessary — than most of us realise.

Women heal in community.
Not theoretically.
Not metaphorically.
Biologically. On a cellular level.

And we need t…

Three Books I'm Currently Reading

Elena Rossi — Mon, 08 Dec 2025 18:29:03 GMT

If you ever read my book, The Anal Playbook, then you already know I grew up in Soviet Russia. I come from a family of engineers and teachers. Both my grandmothers worked in school, teaching German language and Russian literature and my grandfather was a professor at a university. One of my grandmothers also worked at the library part-time.

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During the l…

How Books Became my Portal to an Epic Love Life

Elena Rossi — Wed, 03 Dec 2025 03:00:52 GMT

Something you need to know about me is I am a book nerd through and through.

Reading is my hobby. My favourite type of education. My way to self-soothe my nervous system. My self-care. My inspiration. My personal escape. (and often it is my procrastination…LOL )

If the house was on fire, I’d grab my vintage books and kindle first.

Hence, it should come w…

The day I stopped thinking I was broken...

Elena Rossi — Fri, 14 Nov 2025 22:27:15 GMT

I still remember it like a soft electric shock — the first time I had a G-spot orgasm, I was 27.

I cried with relief right after in the arms of my lover.

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I’ve been sexually active since the age of 16 but not a single of those experiences, in over a decade, offered me the wild over-the-top ecstatic orgasms like you see in movies or read about in books.

Se…