What if the person you’ve been trying to become isn’t there in the future? How do we even know if we will actually live it. Now I know what you’re thinking, “Stop with the ‘what ifs’ and be positive” but seriously what if the future we’ve been dreaming about for years isn’t there?

No one wants to imagine their plan not working out. many people and even I have put their lives on pause and say, “once this happens, I’ll do it.”

I'm sure most of us have did this too, but how do we know it’ll happen? why do we put our lives on hold for a future that might not happen? I feel like the thing that hurts us is brushing the extraordinary ideas we come up with, but it gets brushed off for “next time.” Maybe “next time” feels safer than actually trying.

Because actually trying means you have to find out whether you can do it and I think that’s scary.

It’s scary because we limit ourselves so much to the point we stay in our comfort zone. now what if we stay in our comfort zone forever?

I feel like that’s way more terrifying than trying. You snooze the alarm clock and get up a few hours later saying, “tomorrow is going to be better.”

You stay in bed scrolling on your phone for maybe an hour or two, who knows? you’re waiting till the next day so tomorrow is the important day anyway, you get up after. still looking at your phone as you go to the kitchen, you eat something while also, still scrolling on your phone. The thought of your ideas and dreams haven’t crossed your mind yet.

That’s too big for you at this time. You have work to do, the daily tasks you have to do. You put the phone down finally, and as you’re doing that task the dreams and ideas finally go through.

You get excited with the idea. you start planning every detail in your head. but planning isn’t doing. and then you realize “how is this going to be done if I'm not putting any action toward it”

I think that’s where the trap is. We spend so much time thinking about what we want to do that it almost feels like we’ve already started.

It’s quite common to have most of your thoughts on this goal but have you ever tried to take action on it?

What if you spend that time working toward it, now I'm not saying you shouldn’t dream about it. I’m saying what if you put that drive into chasing your goals and dreams?

You’re also probably thinking once you feel more confident, you’ll get in place and work for it. but what if that moment never comes?

You don’t become the person you want to be by waiting until you’re ready to become them. no one would take you seriously if you told them you want this thing so badly but haven’t put an effort into achieving it.

If you keep thinking you have “no time” or you’re “too busy” you’ll never get what you want, thinking like that is not realistic for your goal.

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