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Everybody likes bread. Even your great-grandmother ate bread. Or am I 100% right? Or just right? lol. Let’s just say that about 95% of people on this earth eat bread at least once a day. There’s a high probability that I’m saying this because I’m Nigerian, but tell me, is there anyone on this earth who doesn’t like bread?

To be more discreet, good afternoonnnnn or good anything, depending on when you receive this letter.

My greatest wish is for you to keep smiling, and if you haven’t smiled today, I hope my letter makes you smile from ear-to-ear right now, because I love seeing your warm smile. It always brightens my heart. But tell me, what’s on your mind at the moment? I genuinely want to know.

Also, how has your eating habits been? guessing it’s way better than mine, if yes and if no please, talk to me. Welp, I’ve been taking a lotttttttt of sugar lately, and honestly, it’s not good for me at all. (send helpppp) If you happen to be a dietitian who can help me and many other stars to create a good meal timetable, and you’re hereeee! Pretty please don’t shy away but share your knowledge with us.

Yeah, that’s that!

Now, back to the top!

In my twenty something years on the earth I’ve come to realise that many things in life promises sustenance, such as friendships, boyfriends, girlfriends, relationships, money, fame, jobs, properties, loved ones, marriage, bread… and the list could go on and on.

But none of them ever fulfills its promises, like literally at every second they fail. But the thing is we depend on these things, let’s leave the ‘we’, I depend on these things in one way or another.(lol for those who think it’s too carnal.) but we can all agree that these things are what makes life even more beautiful and lighter.

But here’s the thing: as much as everything is beautiful for a season, nothing lasts forever. And the sad truth is even when we hate letting go of things, life doesn’t really care whether we want to let go or not. Sometimes, it simply helps us do the letting go.

There are decades where, we find ourselves letting go of loved ones, places, relationships, and even versions of ourselves we thought we would carry on forever.

Ouu, reminds me of FROZEN, Elsa’s song! “Let it go… let it go-o-o…” 🎶

Truth be told, even some friends, might not want you around anymore. Or, to put it more gently, they might have drifted away from you without even realizing it happened.

Take for instance, you’re moving into a new apartment. You can’t possibly carry every single thing from your old place into the new one, At some point, you’ll have to leave some things behind or give them away to charity—unless you’re a weirdo who hoards absolutely everything. Lol.

Sometimes, friendships are like that, too. We grow; our lives change, our priorities change, and without any planned goodbye, that cherished bond between friends, lovers, and loved ones begins to escape us. That’s why, when new seasons comes, we quickly move into them without blinking that until mercy opens our eyes and it dawns on us before we can ever realize that along the way, the people who were there in our previous chapters are nowhere in our current seasons. Sadly, It’s life, it happens.

Not gonna lie, it hurts, a lottttttt. Especially when you still remember the details, and the special moments that made the friendship feel so real. But does that make them wicked people? I don’t think so. Perhaps they’re just human, figuring out life in their own way, just as you are.

I’m no saint here, I’ve had a taste of my own medicine, both as a receiver and a giver. (Not something to pride in.) But one thing I have always prayed for along the way is the grace to be a good friend.

‘I pray that The Anointed Jesus will continue to preserve my kind heart and help me treat people well, no matter what. I want to be someone who loves genuinely, who remembers people, and who cares without always expecting something in return.’

You know, it’s a very difficult thing to do, especially in the kind of world we live in today, where hardly anyone seems calm enough to pause, look inward, and care for strangers or the people around them without expecting anything in return. Still, I want to be that person. And thank God I can through walking in The Spirit.(see my last letter for more.) I want to keep loving people, even when life gives me reasons to do otherwise.

But what happens next when the things and people we banked on can’t give us what we truly need?

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God could have hardwired us to need nothing, but instead, He made us dependent on things like food, water, oxygen, sleep, sunlight, and Him. Okay hold on before you start thinking. Well…. frankly the real reason I’m typing all these things to you at midnight, with my keyboard making so much noise and my hair standing up, all unkept. Lol. The message I’m trying to convey in this letter is this:

God doesn’t want you to be sad and depressed, carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders to the point where you no longer want to live. He wants you to be happy, full of life, and joyful.

Doubt me? Let’s look at it this way: if you created something you deeply loved, would you want that creation to spend its entire existence in sorrow, believing there was no reason to keep living? Definitely not! You would want your creation to live purposefully.

This is why just as many people love bread, and just as food and water are essential for human life, it points us back to the truth that it is only The Anointed Jesus who can truly satisfy us.

Why, because He says in John 6:35 (NIV):

“I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.”

You need The Anointed Jesus now more than ever. You might search for fulfilment outside Him: in your work, relationships, money, fame, power, sex, achievements, success, or adventures. But none of these things can provide the lasting fulfilment your soul longs for.

Perhaps, life has become so heavy that you’re struggling to find a reason to keep living, and everything is just so hard. I don’t know much but I can tell you taking your life is never the solution, (just incase you’re thinking about that) but taking in your daily bread is all you need. Dear Star, The Anointed Jesus wants you to know that ““I, YAHWEH, Commander of Angel Armies, say to you: My heart burns with passion for [put your name here], and my jealousy for her makes me red-hot with anger toward her enemies.” Zechariah‬ ‭8‬:‭2‬ ‭TPT‬‬

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Today, come and feast on God’s Word. Be filled with His presence, and rely on Him for everlasting nourishment.

And lastly, you don’t need to have everything figured out, or to be everyone’s favorite person. Neither do you have to hold every friendship together or chase every goal to prove that you matter. All you simply need to do is to soak in and return to The Anointed One who holds your breath in His hands. (“ and the God who holds your breath in His hand and owns all your ways, you have not glorified.” Daniel‬ ‭5‬:‭23‬c) and know strongly without any doubt that He is pleased with you.

Matthew 17:5 KJV “ While he yet spake, behold, a bright cloud overshadowed them: and behold a voice out of the cloud, which said, This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased; hear ye him.”

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Star, may the rest of your day bring you joy and unsearchable peace. I pray that The Anointed Jesus will continue to be with you, strengthen you, and satisfy your soul. (If you’ve not surrender this life to The Christ, your life can’t experience all these good things, so if you want My Anointed Jesus, send me a direct message RIGHT NOW!)

And if you’ve read up to this point, you’re a real one!

Thank you for reading.

Go burn bright; you are a star!

XOXO.

P.S. Just so you know, this letter isn’t really about bread.

Media I Consumed Lately:

Listening: Wretched Man by Pst. Oche Ogebe. and Favourite Song by Apst. Lawrence Oyor.

My nails are all painted red, and all I can hear right now is the droplets of water into an empty bucket. I’m glad. You know why?

Because October feels lighter, like a month of rest, where I don’t have to do anything at all but just lean in gently and trust the process.

It’s a month that signals grace, strength, and hope. Where everything that seems ordinary is extraordinary, this month decides it’s time to let go, to stop holding yourself back, holding others back/in, and waiting to be chosen.

To stop chasing. To stop jumping on every train that passes your way, and finally decide to make a move, your move.

That’s what October looks like to me, and I choose to trust her.

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My bad, I’ve not been very active here, and honestly, maybe the cares of this life have started to choke out the things I love, but thank God I’m here, right now, typing my heart out to you and that’s all that matters. (That means nothing can truly choke what I love.)

How have you been? How’s your heart, life, and everything in-between?

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I’ll start here…Life might be lifing, but as long as you still have breath in you… that means there’s hope.

Lately, I’ve been called overambitious because I have never been a girl who dreamt or dreams of small things. I’ve always believed in having the big things; I just knew it was possible. Maybe that’s why they say don’t tell your dreams to everybody around, because they’d sometimes, out of love; envy, jealousy, spite, hatred, and other vices, either kill, steal, or take that dream from you.

That aside, I’m writing to you to tell you everything, but mostly to tell you I’ve not been the strongest girl, the bravest girl, the dreamy or the most truthful girl.

Late into this month, I received news that shook me. You know that thing, when writers describe fear, and they quote, “she was paralyzed with fear,” it’s truly a real thing. I panicked so much I didn’t know what to do. I read a scripture once that says:

“Their flesh shall dissolve while they stand on their feet, their eyes shall dissolve in their sockets, and their tongues shall dissolve in their mouths.” Zechariah 14:12

For context, this scripture was for those who fought against God’s people, but mehnn, it described how I felt that day. The only thing I could say was Jesus, and that prompted me to call a friend, and she just spoke peace over me.

Well, to cut the long text short, that bad news turned to good news. That’s when I began to take my spiritual life with God even more seriously. I started to confess to God and His children how weak I was, weak in heart, soul and spirit. That day, I poured my heart to my Anointed Jesus, told Him everything. (You know that prayer that David prayed… take away any wicked way in me, reveal it, blot out all my iniquities...)

God started unraveling everything to me. I saw how much I had never chosen to walk in gentleness. It took God’s mercy to show me that you know, because why was I always angry in my spirit? Why was I suddenly always restless in my spirit? I began to pause… and think If I constantly walked in gentleness, not every small thing that someone does would get me upset.

That was something He started purging me of and many others: anger, bitterness, spite, unforgiveness, self-sabotage, the list could go on and on……

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Here’s a little heart check, to help you identify where you need the Holy Spirit more than ever:

Practice: Take out your journal and be very honest with yourself and the Holy Spirit. Write out all the fruit of the Holy Spirit and rate yourself from 0–10. Where you see you haven’t been exercising or walking in that fruit, pray for long and ask Him to help you walk in it. Because guess what? You already have this fruit of the Spirit; you just need to activate it.

Action: Each day in October, ask the Lord to direct you on how to show love, nurture, and be graceful or steady in words and character as you encounter His creation. Make an effort to show His fruit as you interact with those around you.

Anyways, that was it, and funny how I saw my character improve from worse to good.

I could remember days when I would meet strangers and I would flare up for one reason or the other. All of a sudden, I became calm without me even having to try. I saw myself pray for others and not just be consumed in my own needs and wants. I saw myself laugh more, dance more, sing more, rejoice more,

and grow so much stronger in faith.

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I thought strength meant being hyper-independent, where I’d never let anyone help me. I thought strength meant never mentioning your weakness, I thought strength meant never pausing, until I saw how it all, was hurting my inner self.

I began to learn love, that love also means I can accept help, that I wasn’t meant or built to reject it, to constantly flare up or hide hurt or struggle to receive compliments, and care. I was made to be taken care of, nurtured and watched over by my Anointed Jesus.

And for the longest time, after wearing my heart on my sleeve and getting hurt a lot because of it, I decided to see the good in it. I stopped fighting my true self and accepted that I was made to love even despite the odds.

Even though I’m far from perfect, I started to believe loving loudly is the greatest way to live. And understanding that being at peace with the truth, that not everyone I love is going to stay forever, and no matter how painful that is, it’s absolutely okay.

And. Dear Star, don’t you ever think you’re the problem, because neither you nor they are.

And it certainly doesn’t mean loving them was a waste of time either.

Take home: October might want you to pause at some point, don’t resist.

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So, star.

This is me writing to you.

I’ve learnt a lot these past months, and I’m glad you are always here to see my journey. I do have a lot more to write and share, but this is where I’ll draw the curtains.

I love you, and always keep hoping.

With Love,

Rejiwritess.

Media I Consumed Few Weeks Ago:

Listening: GREATMAN’S ALBUM!!!

Watching: The movies I watched in the past weeks were so interesting and fun for me: Perfect Pair Then there’s, Sidelined: The QB and Me

At the time I’m writing this letter to you, it’s August 12th, and it’s a sunny day and quite chilly for me. I just had shawarma (later regretted having this) and ice cream with baked rice (masa, one of my favourite Nigerian pastries). Anyways, if you’ve not gotten the cue yet… today is my birthday!!!!

This has to be one of the calmest and quietest birthdays I’ve ever had, and indeed, I’m grateful. It’s new to me, but I’m very thankful.

I guess life is hitting harder than I thought for people, to the point that even intentional days like birthdays still somehow skip the minds of people. Oh well, I think we should all try to set reminders of special days of the people in our lives.

Because as scripture instructs us to:

Rom 12:15a: “Rejoice with them that do rejoice.”

So, to everyone who genuinely remembered my birthday and wished me, I’m saying a big thank you. And to those who couldn’t care less, please change that habit and celebrate with others so you can be celebrated too, lol don’t worry I still love you.

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Anyways, my birthday celebration started a long time before now. I wanted to really soak into the day, so I planned something for the first time in my life: a pre-birthday celebration.

I never thought I could pull off something like that. Thanks to God, who is always with me, He helped me all through. Was it the easiest thing? Definitely not. Did it cost a bunch? Absolutely yes. But the good news is God is too good to leave me stranded.

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The theme was a picnic setting, I’ll chip you in from the first thing, which was my dress, I wanted a statement kinda look. And thank God, I finally got that, the perfect dress! I was so happy and I loved it so much!

Well, after getting my dress, I was thinking about my hair, lashes, nails, and all those personal-care girly thingies, and I was swamped. I didn’t know if the hair would come out well because I had never done that hairstyle before. But honestly, that look ATEEEE! I looked so stunning. From the beginning of the month of August to my birthday, my glow-up was on another level. I got so many compliments here and there, and it was so refreshing.

But then I was still so worried about the food, location, and everything (see my notepad below).

I told God my budget for the birthday, which was about a hundred thousand naira. I was just looking at the budget and was like, “Hmm… where Corper wee wan find this kind money?”

But honestly, my faith didn’t shake for a second. I trusted that God would provide. After I wrote it all down and poured out my heart to Him, I went to sleep.

And to my surprise, the ever-faithful God began opening doors for me from different sources. It was such a joyful experience.

But as my joy increased, the devil wanted to try everything possible to frustrate me.

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I had the scariest thing ever happen to me:

One morning at work, I found myself at the edge of a mental breakdown, being so overwhelmed with the planning, with going to my 9–5 and my schedule being so choked. I hated how I was feeling. I kept making mistakes that looked small, but I knew they meant there was a problem.

All those kinds of silly things were happening to me. At work, my productivity was so low. I kept seeing double in each task I was given. I missed like a huge gap because my eyes just didn’t see it.

When I realized how I was feeling, I went straight to my friend’s DM and told her everything. That was when she told me I had to take that break.

Thank God, I did.

It was the best decision ever. I stayed home and listened to Mazino Malaka’s podcast, and it was so refreshing to my soul. I’ll drop the link here too, in case you need it.

After the overwhelming experience I had, I decided to move on with the pre-birthday party celebration, and bit by bit everything started to fall into place.

Honestly At first, I was like, “Do I need to do this? do I have that many close people in my life?” I even thought, “This idea of putting on a party, is it more like performance than joy?”

But on the day of the event, all these negative thoughts turned to joy because the love I received were beyond words. My family turned up for me big time; In the house, everywhere was busy. My sister did all the cooking. Even though the pastries were slightly burnt, they tasted amazing. Everything was so beautiful to see.

Although I couldn’t get my cupcakes for the birthday, nevertheless, I was very much thankful I didn’t get them that day. I would have been so pissed because the vendor (Doofies Cakes) did me strong thing. By the time I got them the following day, they were all vanilla, and I dislike vanilla cake so much.

Anyways, I loved every bit of the day. My friends came, and I even got an early birthday gift. We had such a good time, memories were created, and love was shared.

Today, a string of thoughts came to my mind that a quiet birthday can feel lonely at first, like you’re missing out on what everyone else seems to have. But I began looking inwardly and believed there’s something quiet radical about celebrating yourself softly, especially in seasons when the world feels too loud.

And frankly speaking, you can have both: a party with the people you love, and still stay with yourself in stillness.

Because birthdays aren’t about proving anything to anyone. They’re about marking the fact, with gratitude to God, that you’re here, still, against all odds.

So yes, today, August 12th, is for quietness, deep reflection, deep gratitude, and deep love for God and the grace to be alive today. I looked back so much to when I was such a little girl, and now I’ve seen that I’m not so little anymore. The favour of God has been so strong in my life. YAH has taken me higher, decorated me with His colours and light, filled me with dancing and rejoicing, made me a blessing to others, and also called me blessed.

And all I can say today is, thank you, Abba.

Even though the devil tried his best to steal my joy today, Jesus said, “No.”

And today my testimony is: I’m so grateful to God that I’m alive today. After eating the shawarma, I got so sick. I started having stomachaches and vomiting. It was so uncomfortable, but despite all odds, I took out my boombox, played this song, Good God, and danced my heart out to worship and thank my God.

And thankfully, God healed me.

Stars, never let or allow the devil to steal your joy. Keep rejoicing even in the mess. Praise God, for He is good.

Cheers to twenty-something! I’m super grateful I got to witness this and even more grateful I got to share it with you.

Thank you for celebrating with me. May you always have cause to rejoice.

With love,

Rejiwritess.

Need ideas for your birthday too? I do have a few creative ideas:

• Write a letter to yourself: it can be for the future you, it can be for anytime, just take time to pour your heart out.

• Morning solitude: This is my favorite birthday ritual. You can stay in bed a little longer, talk to God, and journal your own thoughts. Let the morning stretch slowly, like it knows it’s your day.

• Worship session: This is one of the things that’ll definitely make you reflect on the goodness of God, you can call a few friends together and just worship and thank God for the past years.

• Audio recording: you can pull out your phone and record one or two minutes, no script, just you speaking into the camera/recorder about how life feels right now.

• The cosy feeling: if you love pyjamas you can get yourself a set, wear it to sleep before your day and wake up in your birthday socks, soft pyjamas, and your favorite perfume.

• A future-you gift: Book yourself a massage for your day, order concert tickets, or something you’ve been dreaming of.

• Gratitude circle with others: Invite a handful of people you trust to share one thing they appreciate about you. It can be awkward at first, but in the long run you’ll be grateful you did.

Few reflective thoughts to journal:

• What do I want to carry with me from this past year, and what am I ready to leave behind?

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Media I Consumed This Week:

Listening: you can check out my playlist here, Mazino Malaka: Dear Diary it’s okay to not be okay. Good God by GUC and Sunmisola Agbebi.

Watching: haven’t been watching much movies this week, but these series were quite the watch: Abattoir.

I read something once that said the goal is to build a life where peace isn’t something you chase but something you live every day.

But before we get into all that.. how are you feeling? What did you have for breakfast?

As I’m writing this letter to you, I’m at work, sitting at my desk, trying to pour the thoughts in my head onto digital paper, even though I obviously have work to do.I hope your week has been kind to you. Or maybe it hasn't I hope it gets better. Either way, I'm really glad you're here.

Anyways, back to what I was saying, I had to pause and ask myself, Is peace meant to be chased? And how does one live in this peace every day? I was like, with everything happening so fast in our world, do we even have time for peace? Because the moment we choose to relax and rest, a string of guilt creeps in. People say things like, You have so much to do. This is your morning season. You can’t be resting when there’s so much to do. You know the kind of talk I mean.

Someone once called me “Peace,” and I replied, “No, that’s not my name.” The person responded, “Oh, my bad. There’s just an aura about you that oozes peace.” I believe this is what happens when you stop chasing peace on your own and lean into the Holy Spirit’s strength. I don’t know if I have the strength to live in peace every day, but I do know that the Holy Spirit can empower you and me to walk in this peace every day because He promised us that fruit. Remember? Love... joy... peace...

Sometimes, what we need in our everyday lives is to appreciate the little things: being able to see, walk, breathe, eat, and sleep. Those are such blessings, and I believe that’s one of the places where peace is found. (See my last letter if you’d like to read more about the little things.)

This reminds me of one morning when I woke up and noticed the pulse in my wrist. Forgive me if that doesn’t make biological sense, but you know that moment when you can actually see your heartbeat moving beneath your skin? That’s what I saw. And I simply said, “Life.” Thank You, God, for life. I was genuinely amazed by how God created life, and I was so grateful to be a part of it that morning.

Let me share a brief story about why you need to appreciate your beauty sleep and why you need to lean on the Holy Spirit now more than ever for the peace that surpasses all understanding.

One night, after a long, stressful day, I decided to close my eyes and sleep. And guess what? I couldn’t. For hours, I lay in bed begging for sleep, knowing fully well that I had to wake up by 5 a.m. for work. To be honest, it was one of the worst experiences. After such a tiring day, I just couldn’t rest.

As I lay there with my eyes fixed on the ceiling, I began to remember when I was much younger. Whenever I had a bad dream or couldn’t sleep because I was overly excited or for reasons I couldn’t explain, I would go to my mum. She would tell me to sing praises and worship God, assuring me that I would eventually fall asleep.

So, while lying in bed and praying for God to give me sleep, I started singing. Before I could say Jack Robinson, I was asleep. Honestly, waking up the next morning felt like heaven.

Today, as I was on my way to work, rushing to catch the bus, I paused to talk to the Holy Spirit, my best Friend. Everything seemed so fast-paced that I realized there could be days when I might forget to stop and talk to Him. After speaking with Him, I brought up this Scripture to discuss with Him:

“Lord, you will grant us peace; all we have accomplished is really from you.” — Isaiah 26:12

At first glance, it looks so simple, doesn’t it? Yet I couldn’t grasp its meaning. I needed to see what He wanted me to see, so I asked Him to show me something new. And He did. Star, peace has a way of quietly slipping in. It doesn’t leave; it remains because Jesus remains. Isaiah 26:12 reminded me that peace doesn’t come from things. It doesn’t come from being at the beach, drinking a cup of kunu, or even from quiet moments. As wonderful as those things are, true peace comes from Jesus. Jesus is the Prince of Peace.

Then the Holy Spirit began to explain further. He reminded me that everything we have; our families, our jobs, our homes, comes from God. He also brought another Scripture to my heart:

Philippians 1:6 “Being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.”

God is the One who gives you the grace to do everything you do: your work, your studies, your creativity. He is the One behind it all. So, when we are weak, He is strong. We lean into His strength so that the work is accomplished through us by Him.

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Then He spoke something else to my heart: If I want to lean into peace, I must remember to carry Him along in everything I do. Once I involve God in every area of my life, I am reaching up to Him for the strength to do what I cannot do on my own. Because of that, the Lord grants both you and me His peace.

Maybe I had a really bad day. Maybe God simply wanted to hear my voice. Maybe I was supposed to pray for someone. I don’t know. But what I do know is that I just wanted to sleep.

That night, after praying and worshipping, I finally fell asleep.

Sometimes it can be difficult for us to recognize that peace is already surrounding us because peace is an invitation. We are invited into the peace that He gives, not to go running elsewhere in search of peace.

But what does He ask of us? Simply to stop and acknowledge that everything we have and everything we do comes from God. He is the Source.

When Jesus says, “Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore, be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.” — Matthew 10:16

He knows that you cannot do it on your own. That’s why He’s inviting you into His peace. Lean completely on Him. Don’t try to walk through this world without Him. Talk to Him the way you would talk to your closest friend because He is closer than close.

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And how do you remain harmless like a dove? Through peace.

Have you ever thought about the birds; the doves and the sparrows? They hardly store food, yet they are never hungry. So, who feeds them?

Jesus says in Matthew 6:26, “Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?”

This is what God means by total reliance on Him.

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You don’t have to worry or be anxious. All the birds do is wake up and sing praises to God. Perhaps that’s one of the reasons birds are known for singing. They don’t worry because they know God will provide for all their daily needs without having to anxiously stockpile.

And then Jesus asks, “Are you not much better than they?”

What I just shared with you was wisdom that was first shared with me.

I’ll leave you here, Star.

To know Jesus is to know peace.

Don’t let this world choke the peace of God out of your life. God ordains peace for us because of all that He has done through us. That peace comes because of His finished work and His continual work in our lives.

Shalom.

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For me, right now, my chest is hurting, and I feel like I need so much water, like I’m dehydrated. So, I’ll just take a little because it’s already late. (I don’t even know if this is true, but ever since I was little, I’ve been told not to drink too much water before I sleep because it’s not good.) So yeah, let me know how you’re really doing.

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I’m writing to you today because I want to rant in our safe space. I’m not a movie reviewer or blogger, but I just felt like I had to air my views on this particular film I watched during the week. It’s called Every Year After.

First of all, the main reason I clicked on this film was because it looked so summery, if there’s even a word like that, and I usually enjoy rom-coms a lot. So yeah, I started this journey not knowing what was coming. First of all, I don’t enjoy movies that keep me angry at one character or another. In my opinion, this movie was quite toxiccccc for me. Sorry to use that word, but it just kept taking me back and forth. Mehnn... okay, enough of me giving you vague explanations.

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The story was set in a picturesque lakeside summer town with timelines that moved between the past and the present, the constant back and forth was one of the things I found most annoying.

Now, to what I found most interesting about this film. Percy…
Her family used to spend every summer in Barry’s Bay, and that was where she made a few guy friends. one of the was Sam, who eventually became her best friend.

There were a lot of things I didn’t agree with, but one person I would really like to talk about is Percy, short for Persephone. Maybe I cared so much because she was a writer. I don’t know. Or perhaps I could relate. She was such a lovely girl who was deeply in love, and I couldn’t blame her for loving Sam so much. But watching her lose herself because of someone she loved was devastating. From switching her writing to obituary writing, everything about her changed, and somehow, it all traced back to Sam.

It made me remember what someone once said: “You don’t really hold on to someone, because the tighter you hold on to them, the more they want to slip away.” That explained everything to me about Percy. She wasn’t focused on herself and didn’t love herself enough to let go of someone who wasn’t emotionally available for her.

I don’t know... do you see a little of yourself in Percy too? I saw a bit of Percy in me, the past me to be precised. And maybe that’s why this film stayed with me long after it ended.

Sometimes when you’re so in love with someone who doesn’t see you the way you see them, you don’t even realise how much they’re hurting you or how much time you’re wasting. You begin to lose yourself, the things you love, and most especially, your peace of mind. I believe love should be mutual. The person you choose to commit to should also be willing to make sacrifices because true love is a journey, and more often than not, it’s a sacrificial one.

They say: Convenience and sacrifice cannot coexist.

Percy was already carrying so much. She was running away from her past, dealing with panic attacks, and constantly doing things to stop herself from feeling guilty for what she had done. Yet, she still gave her all to a boy who cared more about his goals and ambitions than he cared about her.

Sam constantly kept hurting her. I honestly believe she wouldn’t have gone through so much mental stress if the best friends (Percy and Sam) hadn’t turned their friendship into a relationship. Sam being very self-centred and confused, he first broke up with Percy because he was afraid of losing his medical scholarship. Then he admitted, he would be wrong if he said that they shouldn’t be together right now, and still ask her not to be with anyone else, even though that’s what he wants.

That’s not fair.

He also broke up with Percy againthrough an email, classic Sam—because medical school was too demanding. Then, when life became easier for him, he wanted her to come back. He always kept running away from commitment while twisting and turning Percy’s emotions however he wanted. The most annoying part was when he made out with Percy and then ended up telling her that he couldn’t do this anymore because he couldn’t bring himself to forgive her and his brother. Honestly, so many things were wrong. Was is the part when he wanted to propose to his new girlfriend simply because he didn’t understand his own feelings. In all, Sam had problems. He wasn’t ready to commit, but he wanted the comfort of always having either a best friend or a girlfriend around him.

If you ever come across a man like this, TAKE YOUR HEELS, BABY GIRL, AND RUNNNNNNN.

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Nobody deserves a man like that. Not even Percy deserved someone who was afraid to take responsibility, who ran away whenever things became difficult, and who was afraid to commit to the person he claimed to love. But like they say, love is blind. Percy was perhaps so blinded that she couldn’t see beyond Sam, and it cost her so much; her sanity, her creativity, parts of herself, and even her friendships. Which made me wonder: why do we sometimes keep waiting for people who have repeatedly shown us they aren’t ready?

Maybe it’s because we keep hoping they’ll become the version of themselves we’ve created in our minds. We fall in love with their potential instead of accepting their reality. And while we’re waiting for them to change, we’re the ones slowly changing, losing ourselves in the process.

Least I forget… Sam’s mum. Sue, passed away, and that was when Percy was forced to face her past. For me, though, Sue wasn’t completely right either. Most parents know their children inside and out. They understand both their strengths and weaknesses.

Sue loved her boys deeply, and she realised that if Sam continued the relationship with Percy, he probably wouldn’t focus on his studies. So, she spoke to both of them when she noticed how close they were becoming. She told them that relationships like theirs often end with people getting hurt, and she didn’t want that for them. She reminded Sam that he wanted to become a doctor and reminded Percy that she wanted to become a writer.

Sue knew, deep down, that Sam would eventually end the relationship, but Percy wouldn’t because she couldn’t see beyond him. Of course, no parent who wants their child to become a doctor would want anything distracting them from that goal.

So yes, Sam broke up with Percy.

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Sue was right to discourage the relationship, but I think she should have stepped in much earlier, (like i mean, this girl has known your son since when they were teenagers what did you expect?) before Percy became so emotionally attached. As a woman, I feel she would have understood Percy’s heart better and seen where everything was heading.

As for Percy, my baby girl was so confused. She was deeply hurt by her past because she had done something she regretted. Making out with your best friend’s brother was unthinkable. Just because Sam broke up with her didn’t mean she should have turned to the next person who came her way. Again, I also don’t think Percy loved herself enough because, if she had, she would have realised that Sam wasn’t even up to her standard. Almost her entire life revolved around this guy. Honestly, it was heartbreaking to watch. To me, it wasn’t love anymore; it was obsession mixed with people-pleasing. But I did like how she finally opened up to Sam and told him the truth about what happened between her and his brother.

I would have loved to continue ranting about the other characters like Charlie, Delilah, Chantal, Jordie, and Drew, but this is where my letter ends. All in all, I learnt a lot from the film. Maybe the biggest lesson for me wasn’t just about Sam. It was about how dangerous it is to build your life around someone who hasn’t decided whether they want to build theirs around you.

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Stay away from emotionally unavailable men and love yourself enough to know when to let go, that was the lesson. But beyond that, don’t lose yourself trying to hold on to someone who keeps slipping away. The right people won’t require you to abandon yourself just to keep them.

This is my final message for you:

Song 3:5: “I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.”

If you’re looking for drama, I mean real drama, I’d recommend this.

If you’ve read up to this point, you’re a star. I wish you a lovely week ahead!

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For a very long time, I pondered on what Jesus meant by “I am the Sabbath.” I know you’re like, huh? He said that?

Let me show you.

“For the Son of Man is Lord even of the Sabbath.”
Matthew 12:8 NKJV

Chakam.

The Message Translation even puts it in a more interesting way: “The Son of Man is no yes-man to the Sabbath; he’s in charge.”

Meaning, Oga, see, I am the Sabbath. Na me be odogwu.

This is why Jesus performed countless miracles on the Sabbath day. Because He is our Sabbath.

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I am writing to you today to teach one vital lesson I had to learn the hard way: how not to judge others.

I started with our Lord Jesus because before Jesus revealed this part of Himself to the Pharisees, they were always uncomfortable with anything done on the Sabbath. They judged Jesus and His disciples. They focused so much on religion that they couldn’t tell when they had fallen out of alignment with other critical matters in the Kingdom.

There was a particular day, back in my undergraduate days, that I did something where I sounded and acted so much like the Pharisees. Just to throw in the towel, I’m no saint here. I am guilty of judging people, so as I’m writing to you, I’m also writing to myself.

So, back to what I was saying...

Yeah, so it happened in my room. A particular roommate of mine that year had something I had refused to exercise even though I had it too. If you know it, leave a comment below.

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She had a particular friend that my spirit didn’t click with. As per... “Most spiritual,” that made me exhibit such a bad character, making her friend look like she was such a sinner. I even went as far as literally telling my roommates to be careful around her (sounds something like the Pharisees, right?). In all, I judged her.

And, hellloooooo... who am I to judge whom the Lord hasn’t?

So, one faithful morning (don’t forget I’ve been performing so much drama and judgment around this girl), yeah, so that morning she came to see her friend (my roommate), and she was outside the room. From my sleep, all of a sudden, I shouted at her that she should leave our window or room, something like that, while she was still talking to her friend.

And you must be like, “Oh my gosh, that was very bad. I must have felt sorry for what I did.”

Hmm... I wish.

Instead, I thought what I did was very right.

It wasn’t until my roommate told me and confronted me that that spiritual pride shattered, and I felt so humiliated and terrible.

Now you tell me, if I wanted to draw that lady to Jesus, from everything that happened, do you think I successfully did?

I was so broken. I had hurt this girl countless times. I didn’t show her love or act like Christ. Instead, because of my religious, pompous heart, I failed to do what was important... to walk in love.

That day, I received a revelation from God that I am sharing with anyone here who has that judgmental spirit. The first thing God told me was to apologize to her and ask her to forgive me. Then the Lord opened my eyes to see this Scripture:

“Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.”
Revelation 4:11 KJV

Did you catch it? Read it again, this time out loud.

God created all things. For His pleasure. He created that lady for His pleasure, and He loves her. He knew her sins. He said, “While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” He knew everything, yet He loved her. My roommate understood this. That’s why she never condemned. Instead, she had been exercising love. And I wasn’t. Instead, I was judgmental and unkind to God’s own creation.

I don’t know if you relate to this or you’ve been saying, “Lord, I don’t want to be judging people anymore. I want to love my neighbour as You have loved me.”

The only way to stop and actively get out of the judgmental spirit is to:

1. Love God’s creation. Love your neighbours.

2. See others the way God sees them.

And it starts with your neighbours, the people around you, your family, your siblings. Because Jesus valued you, so you can value them.

“This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.”
John 15:12 NKJV

You might say, “How?”

God’s love is so wide. How can I love as Jesus loved? My heart can only understand and hold so little of God’s overwhelming love...

That’s very profound, but Jesus still says... love each other as I have loved you.

That means Jesus knows you can do it, since Jesus is the Vine and we are the branches, and branches bear fruit. And one of the fruits of the Spirit is love.

Branches don’t make fruit to keep it but to give it away. So let your heart be like a funnel not to work really hard to fill your heart with His love—but to just let His love flow through you to others. Jesus forgave, so forgive. Jesus had compassion, so have compassion. Jesus valued others, so value others. Be the branch and share fruit.

This is what Jesus expects from us. The more you walk in love, the less you walk in judgment. I pray we continually see others the way God sees them.

If you’ve read up to this point, you’re a star. I wish you a lovely week ahead!

Oh, and do you think you can help me and hit the like button if anything I wrote made sense to you? That would be much appreciated.

And don’t forget to show love to others by sending this letter to your friends. Plus, it’s free.

P.S.: I’ll be hosting a bootcamp for writers, women, girls, boys, and anyone passionate about business who wants to venture into the handwritten letters business. It’s my way of helping beginners launch their business with clarity, confidence, and ease without repeating the mistakes I made. All information will be shared soon. In the meantime, sign up and share it with any aspiring beginner in business you know. To join the course waitlist, SIGN UP HERE.

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I recently saw a funny Nigerian proverb: If hard work truly pays, wheelbarrow pushers for don buy private jet. And it got me thinking why is it that some people work hard and others don’t even do as much work that you do but they are more successful than you.

One thing came to my mind: Time and chance happens to all of us.

Eccl 9:11“I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favor to men of skill; but time and chance happeneth to them all.”

When that chance and opportunities comes our way what do we do about it? Are we ready for it? Do we even have eyes to recognize them? Most times we belittle what’s in our hand, thinking it’s very little, (I recently shared a letter talking more about the little things of life) but not realizing that it might be what you need to become financially free. You might be surrounded by prosperity; the problem is if God doesn’t open your eyes to see those opportunities where others are seeing challenges, poverty would be your best friend.

I’ll be writing to you on something I have a little experience in: Business. If you know me well, you must have seen the many businesses I embarked on, from selling Kilishi to now selling Handwritten letters over the years, I think I might have something worthwhile to say. So...

Starting a business is one of the opportunities that people born or trained with the entrepreneurial skills mostly dive into. And honestly, having a business idea is splendid, great, but the idea alone does not guarantee you a successful business.

Many fail to understand the basics of starting up your business, it’s not just to make money, money is the reward, you must understand this. The most important thing is understanding the market because you will only hardly sell something that the market doesn’t want or need.

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For that reason, it all starts with quality research that will help you identify focus groups and explore the market to determine whether or not your idea has the potential to turn into a successful business.

I would be sharing some basic tips for a beginner:

• Understand the market, dig in and do deep research.

• Create a solid business plan nothing too complex just a simple one-page business plan is all you need. That will serve the purpose of giving you some clarity about your goals and the ways of achieving them

• Set a budget. If you want to start your own business, you need to be ready to invest some money. Set a budget and plan your finances to be able to cover both the initial investment and the ongoing expenses.

• Choose your business name. Choosing a good name is an important part of creating your business. You should choose your business name carefully and make it a memorable one.

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I packaged a few questions for you, just to reflect and get to understand your idea better:

• Is there a need on the market for your product or service?

• What are your focus groups? Who are the people in need of your product/service?

• Are there other companies on the market with a similar product/service?

• What do you know about your competition?

• How will your business fit into the market?

I enjoyed sharing my journey with you. If you’ve read up to this point, you’re a star.

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Media I Consumed This Week:

Listening: you can check out my playlist here

Watching: haven’t been watching much movies this week, but these series were quite the watch. Off Campus, Perfect Crown.

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In My Year of Supposed Nothingness

In my year of supposed nothingness.
When I struggled, wanted so many things,
But money was a barrier.

When I worried about what I would eat, wear, or buy.
After tossing and turning.
After waking up every morning wishing for more money.

My day of deliverance came, and I finally paused.
Sat in my nothingness,
In my neediness, and there... there, I saw Jesus.

Down on my knees,
Right there, gratitude consumed my heart.

In abundance and in nothingness,
In my five loaves and two fishes,
I was filled with abundant satisfaction.

You see, Stars,

There is satisfaction in the nothingness.
Being empty means there will certainly be a refilling.
That having money, or the lack of it, doesn’t dictate your worth.

Haven’t you discovered
That you gather and keep gathering till it becomes food for moths?
And then you feel a sickness, a heaviness in your spirit—just heavy.

So, you ask yourself, what’s the result of making money your everything

if, after it all, all you see is emptiness?

Do you see this?

That if placed before you—

that amount of money you so much desire,

that you’re so desperate for—and your Master, Jesus...

would you say yes to Jesus or to mammon?

Who would you say yes to?

Quiet Prayer:

Lord, please have mercy on me. (Repent.)

Give rradical thanksgiving.

Lord, help me. Perfect Your love in me.

Lord, please deliver me from the love of money and the fear of lack, and replace them with the fear of God.

I enjoyed sharing my faith and journey with you. If you’ve read up to this point, you’re a star.

Oh, and do you think you can help me and hit the like button if anything I wrote made sense to you? That would be much appreciated.

And don’t forget to show love to others by sending this letter to your friends. Plus, it’s free.

P.S.: I’ll be hosting a bootcamp for writers, women, girls, boys, and anyone passionate about business who wants to venture into the handwritten letters business. It’s my way of helping beginners launch their business with clarity, confidence, and ease without repeating the mistakes I made. All information will be shared soon. In the meantime, sign up and share it with any aspiring beginner in business you know. To join the course waitlist, SIGN UP HERE.

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Okay, scrap that... lol. But let’s be honest, that was a nice piece, wasn’t it?

Here’s my take, we are sometimes used to feeling like nothing. And I don’t mean thinking less of yourself. I mean sometimes we might be so obsessed with the idea that the only way we can be loved is by being romantically in love that we miss out on so many other great, beautiful ways we can show up for ourselves. So, any little bit of attention or love would feel like a great something.

But hey, maybe the happy ending is that you fall in love with your life: eat your favourite foods, travel to your favorite places, admire sunrises and sunsets, pick up the book you’ve been trying to finish, munch on something you love, dance to your favourite songs, and buy yourself flowers.

Star, you need to feel like you’re something even if nobody dances with you. Feel like you’re creative even if no one sees your work.

That even if he takes you out and gives you just one rose, one pair of shoes, or one perfume, yeah, it’s thoughtful—but when you get back home and open your door, you see the many bouquets of flowers you had already bought for yourself, the many pairs of shoes, and your collection of perfumes, you’ll be like ‘my gosh’ because that one rose wouldn’t carry your entire being because you’ve spent time living and romanticizing your life.

Often, we fail to bring our minds back to how blessed we really are. We get so obsessed with the idea that the only way we can be loved is by being romantically in love that we miss out on so many other great, beautiful ways we can show up for ourselves, our family, our friends, and even strangers. I mean, buying someone a cup of coffee...

Someone once said, “Nothing is small until it’s compared.” Just because things are small doesn’t mean they are not meaningful. Try to see how many beautiful things we are not observant enough to be grateful for: the quiet Saturday mornings, the page-turning novels, the ability to listen to your favourite playlist, the clean sheets, the laughs with friends, the smell of flowers, the rain, the sun, the bread you toast and the butter melts just the way you like it, and having all the ingredients to make that perfect pie or your favourite banana cake.

Look around and notice those hundreds of tiny, beautiful things that are part of your daily life, because it is such a privilege to have them around.

We try so hard to find the things, but they’re right there in front of us.

Today, Star, celebrate those small wins as much as possible. This life is so fleeting. Today is so blessed. Live life enough.

If you’ve read up to this point, you’re a star. I wish you a lovely week ahead!

Oh, and do you think you can help me and hit the like button if anything I wrote made sense to you? That would be much appreciated.

And don’t forget to show love to others by sending this letter to your friends. Plus, it’s free.

P.S.: I’ll be hosting a bootcamp for writers, women, girls, boys, and anyone passionate about business who wants to venture into the handwritten letters business. It’s my way of helping beginners launch their business with clarity, confidence, and ease without repeating the mistakes I made. All information will be shared soon. In the meantime, sign up and share it with any aspiring beginner in business you know. To join the course waitlist, SIGN UP HERE.

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Today is Friday, 26^th June 2026, (this was the time I was writing this) and it’s currently 9:33p.m., and I believe this is the first time this year I am writing to you, it’s been so long, that I wondered if you were still subscribed to my letters. My sincere apologies. I have no excuse, and I plead for another chance, if you may.

(Inhales and exhales deeply) right. So, how have you been? How are you doing? I know quite cliché. But it’s worth asking, a lot is happening in our world today that I always wonder how you have really been feeling. If you’re willing, do let me know, you don’t have to carry these burdens alone. Vulnerability is for you and this has always been our safe space.

Welp, do you know that you can be so calm outside- in speech, behavior, and words- but yet deep inside of you where you can hear your voice or other voices is a raging chaos, tension, anxiety, fear and uneasiness and perhaps heaviness of heart- that only those with an inner eye (discerning eye) can see? What you thought you’ve buried inside of you for a very long time, that no one could guess, to your surprise they see the raging storms in your soul, they hear the voices too, but in the flesh, everything seems so calm, coordinated, serene and peaceful.

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I know that was a lot to digest, but I am not here to scare you... I am here to tell you two things:

1. Stop reading for a minute and take a deep breath.

2. You are not alone.

Earlier this year, I received a prophetic word from mama DDK’s ministry that settled deeply in my heart. I’m paraphrasing, anyways, this was the message:

“There will be torches, bright lights upon the seas, and the light will never go out.”

I know right? So, jaw-dropping. But I must tell you, that word was for me. And perhaps it might be yours too? Who can tell it?

Why am I telling you this? What’s my point?

I am saying this to notify you that you are not alone, so dear star, relax. Because, even with the mighty seas and storms, even when life feels uncertain, even when the voices are getting louder, relax, for God is right there with you, and He is for you. I understand the voices are getting louder saying, “What if... what if I fail...?” well, I have tried this antidote for myself and I would love you try it too: my father in the lord, Pastor E.A. Adeboye, said: “When next the devil says, ‘what if you fail?’ tell the devil, ‘What if I pass?’ Then what next, devil?” And I’ll like to add: rebuke the devil immediately before he gets the chance to utter another word.

James 4:7 “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”

Someone might be reading and be like, “Wowww… slow down. I didn’t click on this for more stories about this devil and Jesus stuff...” And I totally get you, but I must write to tell the truth. Truthfully, there’s an enemy, and unless you cast down every high thing that exalts itself above the name of Jesus- that includes thoughts and the heaviness in your soul- you will continue to wear it like a badge of honor.

2Corinthians 10:5 “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;”

Psalm 42:11 “Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.”

Star, I want you to not trust in yourself, remember by strength shall no man prevail right. My post said, “Rejoice almost recently posted...” but guess what? She didn’t, because there was another agenda. She chose to relax, because God is with her and He is for her.

Quick one: you don’t answer thought with thought; you answer thought with the stern truth, God’s word.

“You’re ugly.” No! I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14

“You’re broke.” No! I lack nothing. Psalm 23:1

“you’re a failure.” No! I have good success. Joshua 1:8

And so much more. I am writing to you not to compound the problem but to offer you a simple solution. Love the lord your God and His word. You don’t have to do too much. Just one verse at a time, one Scripture per night. Take it, meditate on it and watch the unimaginable peace that will saturate your soul. You might not understand it at first, that’s absolutely okay, but stay there. Sit on it and ask the Holy Spirit questions- any question at all, don’t be shy. For where the Lord is, there is liberty.

I cherish you, dear Star, and I hope to write to you again. And I believe by the time I write back to you; your heart would have healed so much that your light itself begins to cast out every darkness.

If you have any pressing prayer points, please leave them below. Always praying for you.

With love,

Rejiwritess.

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Welp, I didn’t forget about you for a second. I’ve missed writing to you, and I’m so happy that I get to again. The fact that I always have a safe space to come back to and share my life experiences feels like my perfect creamy chocolate cake. This letter is my little way of telling my brain, YOU DID GREAT!! And I’m especially thanking you, Stars, for being with me through the most exciting, sweet, adventurous, rocky, and fierce moments of my life. I hope this letter sparks gratitude, peace, laughter, reflection, and wisdom. This one is specially written just for you.

The versions of you that you may never get to exist again are ready to be re-lived. Let’s get delulu for a second, just imagine if God, the ruler of the world, gave you one chance to re-live a version of yourself. Which one would you pick: your childhood, your secondary school graduation, your undergraduate convocation, your country’s youth service year? Or could it be the innocent version, the version before heartbreak, the version that didn’t know better?

There are so many versions to think of, and you may just want to have a taste again, maybe do the things you didn’t do back then. For me, if I were given this opportunity, it would be so much more but if I should mention them, my teenage years, my convocation, and my NYSC orientation camp experience would definitely stand out.

Looking back now at my convocation experience; the journey, the gratitude, the laughter, the peace, and the realization that girl, you’re not so little anymore—it’s something to cherish deeply. Graduating from Redeemer’s University in October 2025 with a First Class degree was mind-blowing for me. I honestly couldn’t believe it, and I knew I couldn’t have done it without God. So why would I love to experience it again? The joy. There’s something about reaching a milestone, and that convocation was it for me: me in my gown, the entire ceremony, the day out with the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), and that fresh wave of freedom, love, memories, and joy.

I know you might be wondering, “Isn’t NYSC all depressing?” when you saw the phrase my NYSC orientation camp experience. But no—it was practical, diverse, raw, fun, and exciting for me. I wouldn’t mince words: before I went to camp, I was frightened, worried, and anxious because most of the feedback and content I consumed didn’t look promising. But as soon as I arrived, I was surprised at how quickly I made a friend, and just like that, the wave of anxiety and fear melted away.

The first week was horrible for me. I lost my appetite, and everything felt strange, which is normal when you change environments. But the next two weeks were amazing, exciting, and fun. So yes, that experience, without the stress—is something I wouldn’t mind reliving.

My little advice to those who haven’t gone for their camping experience yet is this: have an open mind. It might stretch you at the beginning, but what kept me going was knowing that I only get to camp once in my life, so why not make the most of it? Another piece of advice is to build capacity while you have time: spiritually, mentally, physically, socially, and emotionally. And lastly, remember, camp is not your home or your comfort zone.

Welp, Stars. As 2025 comes to an end in less than 48 hours, I want to know which delulu experience you’d love to re-live or experience again, and one thing you’re genuinely grateful for this year.

Plus, if you’ve read up to this point, you’re a real one. And if you’d like me to write more about my NYSC experience, leave a comment.

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Thank you for reading.

Go burn bright in the new year, you are a star.

XOXO.

Media I Consumed This Week:

Listening: you can check out my playlist here

Watching: haven’t been watching much movies this week, but this movie was a nice watch. Where Love Lives

Dear Star,

I know I said my previous letter might just be the last one I did write to you in this season, but you might never know the surprises that I still have for you this year. So watch out for my letters in your mailbox; spam, some might have mistakenly trashed them, so check your bin, or in your promotions.

I hope my last letter resonated with you, and you learnt a thing or two. If it didn’t, that’s fine. This letter I’m writing to you today might be just what you need to see the beauty and hope.

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They say butterflies appear when angels are seen. I don’t know how true that is, but it sure brings light and hope to me each time I think about it. When I see a butterfly around me, it gives me joy. I see it as a sign. I don’t idolize it or something, but it does remind me to be free, content, and satisfied.
I wrote a poem on that once:

Let go of your burdens and be like a butterfly in God’s hands.
Be transformed.
Be free.
Become light.
Embrace the ability to change into something brand new.

Star, I want you to know that you’re allowed to love this version of yourself while becoming the person you want to be. I know I wrote to you yesterday, that you should constantly try to be a better version of yourself, but today I’m reminding you that even at that, you’re still allowed to love this you, and be satisfied with you.

No longer would you strive to attain validation. You’re a star after all, and stars don’t ask for an applause, they just exist—brilliantly. The moon never begs for you to see her beauty; you’re just drawn to stop, look, and marvel. So, allow yourself to shine without the desire to be seen. Your star will expose you without you even trying.

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Scripture tells us: “All nations will come to your light; mighty kings will come to see your radiance.” Isaiah 60:3

No longer will you struggle with wanting to be seen. The world already sees you. So stay as is—shine authentically, stay in the presence of God, love this version of yourself while becoming the person you want to be.

Your mother’s prayers are daily guiding you and creating paths for you. God is constantly answering them. There are many things you can’t see at work in you, but they are surely creating the beauty and hope in you. There are roots holding you steady that you may never see. You’re not late, not lost, not empty, but you’re in the right place where God will have you. God doesn’t make mistakes. You’re not behind, you are becoming!

Star, never doubt your worth. Don’t shrink for others to see you. You don’t have to force. Just be still. What’s meant for you will come to you. You’re the answered prayer, and the world awaits you.

“For the earnest expectation of the creature waiteth for the manifestation of the sons of God.” Romans 8:19

I love you, Star! And till I write to you again, I’ll be praying for you.

P.S.: Goodbye July.
With love,
Rejiwritess

July is over, Stars!!
And this might just be my last letter for the season—hopefully not—but I would be taking a break from writing to you. It’s nothing too deep. I would miss you immensely!! It has been amazing writing to you in these past weeks. How have my letters inspired you? And how was July for you? Let me know.

Yesterday I was able to write to a teenager who is trying to navigate this thing called relationship. Today, I want to write to the youths here—still on the same topic, but from a much more different angle.

When you hear that word relationship, it can sound so big and huge before you. Let’s try and simplify the meaning of it. Relationship for me means choosing that one/more persons who you have decided to stay connected with and can do this life thing with you.

Many people build relationships for many reasons, but when it comes to romantic relationships, most people are a bit nonchalant about it— not having any purpose or definition for why they decided to venture into it. While some are determined, clear, and know exactly what this thing is all about and what they’re getting into. Romantic relationship is much deeper, closer, it’s an intimate connection between two (male and female), with a deep love which has a desire for a lifelong partnership.

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How can one be sure that he/she is ready for this serious business, that you’re indeed ready to leave the single zone and move into the dating zone?

Maybe you desire a relationship. Perhaps you’re one who doesn’t even think of being in a relationship now, not the insecure one, but you just don’t desire it now. Or you’re one who desires it, but you’re satisfied without it. Then I’d say, out of the three options, if you’re in the last boat, then you might be just 89% ready for a relationship.

Note: If you’re insecure without a relationship, that’s not a good pointer to venture into a romantic relationship. If you’re so unsatisfied with yourself or you don’t like yourself—I beg you, don’t say yes to a relationship. First, you have to say yes to yourself, deal with that insecurity, and become a whole person. Because if you’re insecure without a relationship, you would still be insecure even when you’re in a relationship.

Another thing to know if you’re ready is that you have standards—not trying to tell you to change for anybody, but you are constantly trying to be the better version of yourself, that is also growing to reach that standard you have set. Be the kind of person that the kind of person you want to date actually wants to date. Rise to meet those standards. Know what you want. You can improve and grow.

Another way to know is when you’re doing something substantial with your life, knowing what God will have you do, having clarity on your purpose, and actually on your way doing it, or you’ve started doing it.

I’m not trying to say Oh, have millions in your bank account, but knowing the journey/idea you’re taking and that you need a travel partner in this journey of life. Not knowing where you’re going or not having an idea, any person can look like it, which isn’t healthy and worthwhile.

Try asking yourself these questions:
What stage of my life am I in now?
What will God have me do now?
What’s my purpose?
What kind of person do I actually want to be on this journey of life with?

Also, the way to know is—if marriage comes calling, it wouldn’t catch you by surprise. This means before hand you had a plan; it’s been on your vision board. Like, for example, you might say, “When I’m 23, I should be married.” So when a man comes to you when you’re 20 and he aligns with your purpose, you know that you wouldn’t keep him waiting, unclear about when you want to settle down. Not saying this is your final decision but its not vague or unclear, there is at least an expectation.

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If you’ve also learnt to build non-romantic relationships, financial literacy, emotional intelligence, this would help you know how ready you are for a relationship. Having a good character, loving people, just being kind to one another would help you know that you’re ready for a relationship.

Lastly, understanding what love really is would help you know. If you’re determining love by the movies you’ve watched, that wouldn’t help. Love can only be found in God, and then you will be able to love others:

“But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” —1 John 4:8

Reading this profound scripture would help you understand more on the idea of love—1 Corinthians 13 and also intentionally praying for the heart to love. I pray you end up having a joyfully ever after relationship through God’s help.

I’m sure this letter has made you wiser than before, and if you’ve read up to this point you’re amazing!!!

Always and forever rooting for you.

With love,
Rejiwritess.
xx.

Hey Stars!!

Today’s letter is a dicey one. I don’t think I have ever written to you about my view of relationships, and I hope today, as I write and share all these, you receive some wisdom for the love journey ahead of you.

As you all know, I’m a lover girl, and I know how hard it can be for a young girl who has fantasized her whole love life as a teenager based on the Disney cartoons she has watched. Then she suddenly begins to grow and has these butterflies in her belly, and then she meets a guy at school who tells her she’s the most beautiful girl in the world, that he can’t stop thinking about her and wants her to be his girlfriend. Let’s make it a bit spicy, he has been her long-time crush, and then immediately she hears those words, the butterflies in her belly let loose and she goes ahead to accept his offer.

Remember I wrote this is my view, so you can either accept this letter, or you could do the mean thing and squeeze it, trash it in your bin—not a very polite option, I’d say.

There’s nothing wrong with having feelings for a guy, but it’s the decision you make that counts when you have that. You need to be truthful to yourself:
Do I know what I’m getting into?
Is my mind prepared for this?
Would God be involved in this?
Do I really want this?

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I can remember how my Teenager’s teacher told us it’s fine to have a crush on someone, but after that, what next? And then she emphasized that we don’t make a move into becoming girlfriend and boyfriend. Because I was around fifteen, she was talking to the teenagers and advising us on how to handle our emotions, that we should tell our siblings, guardians, and parents that a particular guy is finding interest in you.

Your feelings aren’t based on your age; they’re based on exposure; what you see, hear, and read. And many teenagers these days, from the erotic books they read, the peer pressure at school, the movies they watch, can distort their view on what relationship is all about, and honestly, it’s not something you just jump into like that. You need to have discernment and take your time with it. (Today I might be talking to the teenagers more, so to the youths, please don’t be angry, I’d treat yours later.)

Imagine when a friend betrays you, or a friendship ends. You know how much pain, trauma, and grief you can go through, so now picture it’s a relationship. That’s why one has to be wise and mature enough to handle it.

You might be wondering, But everyone in my class is dating someone, I’m feeling like the odd one out. And I have this strong feeling for this guy, and I believe he will make me happy. Well, yes—he will, but only a little bit, and only for a little while.

A research scientist figured that love has three stages. And one of the first stage of these is lust, where the wild passionate feelings of lust in the early days, weeks, or months of a relationship are incredible. But as you experience it more and more, they lose some sort of appeal and satisfaction. Many young girls confuse the euphoric feelings that accompany this stage with happiness. You might be happier in the early stages of a relationship, but these emotions fade away over time.

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You might be curious: Just where am I to find this lasting happiness then?
I wrote in my last letter about Joy—where you can find this joy is from the Word of God and not someone else. “Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again, rejoice!” —Philippians 4:4

I’d say it’s not advisable for a teenager to enter into a relationship, because out of a 100% chance of the relationship lasting, only about 2% are successful with the dating. And you need to have a mature mind to know what you’re going into, like I earlier said. So to the Star teens here, don’t follow your feelings. It’s been said that after three weeks or even less you can even lose those feelings you’ve based your decisions on.

I watched this movie, The Life List, and Alex, the main character, was given the questions that she should ponder on when she was trying to answer the thoughts in her heart if she’s found true love. So, here’s the True Love Test Questions you should ask yourself:

• Can I tell him everything in my heart?

• Is he kind?

• Does he help you become the best version of yourself?

• Can you imagine him as the father of your children?

And I did also add that you should ask him: Is Jesus your Lord? Do you love Him?

As a teenage girl, you need to understand your value, your worth, and find your security. Your value might come from a lifetime of strong connections to loving parents, which is fantastic, but for some, this isn’t even the case. Your worth can come from something even much more (I’m referring to both parties now). Knowing your worth as a teenage girl would help you filter the need for love, validation, and completeness from the opposite gender.

Here is what God says about you:
“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion,
as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.”—Psalm 139:13–15

“But God showed His great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.” —Romans 5:8

“And the very hairs on your head are all numbered.
So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows.” —Luke 12:7

So I’ll say to a teenage girl out there who is having so many questions about: What do I do with my emotions? All these butterflies in my belly? I’ll say: God has given you emotions, and He expects you to show them, but you need to be led by the Spirit of God, and you need to understand what the will of God is for you.
It’s in His will that we see perfection—the right decisions—not in your feelings.
And remember, emotions are not always a standard for truth, but see from how God sees it.

I hope this letter helps you, and many other young people out there. You’re loved and complete in God.
“And ye are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and power.” —Colossians 2:10 (KJV)
Another translation says: “And our own completeness is now found in Him. We are completely filled with God as Christ’s fullness overflows within us.” —Colossians 2:10a (TPT)

I love you, Star!

With love,
Rejiwritess.
xx.

Hey Stars,
I wrote something in my journal that always breaks my heart and causes me to say a prayer every time I read it, and today, I would be sharing that with you.

Poem: The Love of Money

Money comes with many sorrows.
Many make different choices just to be given the wealth,
Failing to ask for wisdom for stewardship.
They coveted after, longing and wishing to be wealthy,
Many have compromised, and live to regret it bitterly.
They have forgotten the source of it all,
Justifying that it’s the desire to fund the kingdom.
Forgetting that the source has been funding His kingdom,
Before your first breath on this earth.

They forget they’re stewards,
Forgetting to cry day and night for the right heart posture.
They trust themselves so much,
Forgetting that the flesh battles with spirit.
But, I have one question to ask you:
“If it’s all taken away, would you still have purpose?
Would you still praise the source of all things?”

You don’t have to feed on the junks of the love of money.
Don’t stay, and let the love of money grow into a root of evil.
You can choose to leave the environment,
Don’t let the lack or the fear of losing it
Dictate your destiny and your decisions.

You must learn to be fulfilled even with none,
And even with more.
Stay in the peace of contentment,
Seek first the kingdom of God, and every other thing will be added to you.
You gather and heap up mighty riches and yet not satisfied,
Yet people come to help you spend it,
Yet you can’t buy peace.
Forgetting that it can all disappear in a twinkle of an eye.

Make the source—God—your eternal heart desire.
Love not the riches of this world.
Make God your central focus,
Love the Lord with all your heart, your soul, your strength, and your mind.
For He alone is your eternal source.
And He will bless you abundantly, and you will grow to become exceedingly great.

I believe this poem has thrown light into your heart, and you might be feeling broken now and wondering:
“How do I even get rid of this dangerous love for money?”
I just want to pray with you concerning that,
Because it’s the Holy Spirit who can help you with a new heart.

Prayer:
Lord Jesus, we thank you for your word,
We thank you for answering our prayers and hearing us.
Lord, we desire your kingdom,
We don’t want to continually chase after money and pierce ourselves with many sorrows.
Instead, Jesus, we want your heart,
A heart of Jesus that pants daily for you.
And Lord, when you do start blessing us and bring wealth across our path,
Give us grace to steward that wealth.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Always and Forever Rooting for You.
With love,
Rejiwritess
xx.

Hey Stars!!

Let me share a side of myself that not many people know. Here it comes..I don’t like being alone. I like to see people around me but still enjoy my own space. Shocking right? Because I’m introverted. Welp, I don’t like to admit it.

This is me sharing my big secret with you, lol. I don’t like doing things on my own. I enjoy being a follower and not a leader. I'm sure Yahweh Shalom noticed and decided to placed me in a situation where I had to learn to be alone.

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While I was alone, here are a few things I began to do:
• Began to love and be kinder to myself.
• Called old friends.
• Listened and danced to music.
• Had intimacy with the Holy Spirit.
• Listened to various podcasts and my audio Bible.
• Meditated and had quiet time with the Lord.
• Made a letter to my future self.
• Organized my closet.
• Journaled.
• Watched movies.
• Read books.

I write today because I want us to dig deeper into what it means to be alone with God — your Maker, your All. John 15:7 — Jesus was saying: “But if you remain in me and my words remain in you, you may ask for anything you want, and it will be granted! Isn’t that so amazing??!!Jesus desires intimacy with you. Every day He awaits you — no matter how far you’ve gone, or left your secret place, or you’re wondering, How do I even meet God? The truth is, He loves you, and He has always been present with you. God is so mindful of you. He visits you every morning (see Job 7:18). You’re not a nobody — God needs you, and He wants to fellowship with you.

Aloneness with God means perfect peace. It means complete vulnerability before Him. It means to be naked before your Father, hiding nothing. When you want to be alone with your Father, you go before Him acknowledging that He is very real and inviting His presence into the atmosphere.

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How can you meet God?
First start by entering into His courts with praise, worship, and adoration. The Psalmist knew this powerful secret of God, see Psalm 100:4. Because our God is mighty, He is a King. You don’t just meet Him casually — you dance before Him, you worship Him, praise Him, and give Him thanks.

Then carve out time out of the 24 hours specifically for God. Take out every distraction. Don’t deceive yourself. Let your heart be expectant that He is here. Be conscious of Him. Then lay down your request before Him. Remind Him of His promises in the Scripture.

Now hold on there, don’t run away from His presence. Pause to hear from Him. Prepare your heart that He will speak to you. Even if you feel like it’s your thought, take your pen and paper and write it down. That’s how you begin to build intimacy with Him.

God is very real, and He is always speaking. Enough of doing transactions with God — it’s time for you to enter into His palace and have communion with Him. To seek His face and no longer His hand. And you must see it as a relationship. You don’t just do it once and say, God didn’t speak to me. No, you must continually desire and seek His face, and our God is good, kind, and merciful. He will hear you.

The final and most important secret of meeting God is through the Word of God. The Word of God is Spirit and Life. Don’t joke with it. That’s God’s voice already speaking to you. For those of us that love drama like me, you can play the audio Bible to understand God more how He speaks, His character traits.

Once you’re done talking to God, hearing Him, and reading His Word, give Him thanks, worship Him, and believe that He is with you always. Because let me burst your bubble, you’re never alone. God’s eyes are always watching over you, Proverbs 15:3 tells us so:“The Lord is watching everywhere, keeping His eye on both the evil and the good.”See also Hebrews 4:13.

Star, I hope with this letter you will pause and meet your Father, because He has always fixed you in His thoughts, waiting for you to just let Him into your life, to give Him a chance.

I’ll be wrapping up here, but I’ll leave you with one of my favourite scriptures: “As for me, since I am poor and needy, let the Lord keep me in His thoughts. You are my helper and my saviour. O my God, don’t delay.” Psalm 40:17

God has heard you and wants to meet you too.

Always and Forever Rooting for You,
With love,
Rejiwritess.
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Hey Stars!
How have you been holding up in July? The month is gradually coming to a close. What’s one thing you’re grateful for this month? Let me know.

I wrote in my previous letter how July has been really kind to me, blooming boldly. Today I write that this month has truly been a blessing in my life and it has been reminding me to live in the present and fight for my joy.

My letter to you today is to remind you of how joy is one thing you can’t afford not to have in your life. If you’ve watched Inside Out 1 & 2, you remember how Joy was the source of strength to Riley, she kept trying to find hope for her and help her see the beauty in life.

Let’s picture this together: a young CEO just got his contract approved and signed, which is a big deal. So, he goes to celebrate at the club with his girlfriend and his other guys. All bills are on him for the night, and they have such a lovely time. What are you imagining? What’s coming to your mind? He’s living the life, he’s very happy.

But let’s have another scene in this same young CEO’s life. He goes to the office the next day, and all of a sudden, the investors call him that they’re not interested in the deal anymore and the contract has been declined. What’s coming to your mind now? Do you think he’s very happy? Of course not. His once happy life isn’t so smooth and lovely anymore.

Life is exactly like this. You can never know what will happen tomorrow. The young CEO kept his happiness based on his circumstances. For you to fight for your joy, you can’t base that on what’s happening around you. It can be so difficult to be smiling and rejoicing when things aren’t looking so great.

Let me establish the truth that joy is different from happiness. Happiness is often a fleeting, circumstantial emotion based on what’s happening in your life. Joy is a deeper, more intentional trait. It’s a fruit of the Spirit, and it’s something only God can give you. See Psalm 28:7, Psalm 16:11, Galatians 5:22.

Let’s see how a young man named Joseph was filled with joy, even though his life was pretty heartbreaking. Joseph was always happy, pure and free. His father loved him, and even gave him a coat of many colors, Joseph being pure and loving shared with his brothers out of excitement and joy about his new coat. little did he know that his brothers were tired and sick of hearing his dreams and were planning evil for him. see Genesis 37.

That was the beginning of Joseph’s pain and betrayal. But guess what? even after he was sold by his brothers and he was wrongly accused, yet he was so excited and filled with joy, even as a prisoner in a foreign land.

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It’s one thing for a friend to betray you, but imagine when your family is the one who is against you, do you know how hurtful that is? But Joseph, from scriptures, never spoke badly or cursed God. Even when he was in prison, the person he told to remember him completely forgot him, until there was a problem that Joseph was remembered. Yet Joseph never had vengeance towards him. Even though his family betrayed him and he was wrongly accused, he was filled with joy.

Joy is a mystery, and in this dark world we live in, your joy has to be intact to prevent depression from consuming the better part of you. So how do you exercise this joy? Because you already have it.

Note: I’m not saying that joy is the only vital emotion for your life, far from that. None of your emotions are invalid to God. He sees them all, and He’s always ready to help you.

You can learn from the psalmist, he expressed every emotion and feeling to God, but at all times his final statements were praises, worship, adoration, and joy.

Back to the main deal how to fight for your joy:
• Surrender and admit your emotions, and give your life to Jesus completely.
• Always have a song in your heart. Psalm 47:6,7
• Give God thanks, stop complaining and start reflecting on God’s goodness.
• Set the mood: play praise songs, dance to praise songs, play the audio version of the Word of God.
• Intentionally meditate on the Word of God.
• Sing praises with understanding.

Star, I know right now you’re probably thinking what would this joy do for me? or you might be desiring to be filled continually with this joy. One thing I want you to know is that, for you to activate that joy as a child of God, you have to partner with the Holy Spirit. Joy is that fruit of the Spirit that will remove you from ever being stranded in life. You need to fight for this joy because that’s where strength is (the joy of the Lord is your strength Nehemiah 8:10). Joy is that mystery that gives you access to divine wisdom so if you desire wisdom, pray to God to fill you with joy.

Joy can’t come except you’re grateful. A world known preacher once said: when you’re grateful, you’ll be songful, and when you’re songful, you will become insightful and then you become Godful.

If you’ve read up to this point you’re amazing!!!!! Remember God’s got you, always.

Will continue to love and pray for you,

Rejiwritess

Xx.

Hey Stars!!

I had been hearing about MUN, but it never really tickled my fancy—until March 2025, when I experienced my first Redeemer’s University Model United Nations (RUIMUN). Little did I know that this event was about to blow my mind.

To begin with, I had no clue what MUN was all about. I just saw a flyer about it and I was like hmm, I should definitely go — wouldn’t hurt. Thankfully, a lovely friend of mine gave me feedback on how everything would play out — not everything actually, but the basics.

I didn’t want to go all out to do research upon research, so I just went with the flow, because I knew it would spoil the fun. One thing I would have loved during my first time at RUIMUN would have been if I had my friends there with me.

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I think it was quite obvious that I was the new kid in RUIMUN, and it was okay, but here’s the gist: don’t trust anyone! But let me tone that a little — be you. Forget the “don’t trust anyone,” and just be yourself. Try to enjoy every single thing about it. So let me give you newbies a little gist into it.

When I first saw the price to participate, I was doubting a bit — not that it wasn’t affordable, but as a final-year student, bills can be a lot, and I was like okay nope, not adding this to it. But somehow, God provided for me — it was amazing. The idea of RUIMUN is to bring youths together from around the world to learn and share ideas from a diverse set of experiences and backgrounds. Basically, students play the role of delegates from different countries, which I find really cool, and the beauty of it is to attempt to solve real-world issues through debates and discussions. I was assigned as the delegate of Singapore, and it was so beautiful. I took the country as my own. This was where I did a little research — I found out more about the country and honestly, it was so fun for me.

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Another amazing thing that I picked out was how safe the environment was. What was running through my mind in that moment was — who thought about this brilliant idea to bring it to universities? It was so beautiful to attend. It’s a perfect platform for students to learn communication/public speaking skills, International Relations, diplomacy, confidence, to build their network, and meet amazing new people.

It’s a mind-shift experience, and again, the food at RUIMUN is something to look out for, because you get fed three times in a day, which I find very thoughtful and sweet. You are also given a certificate and awards as well, which you can display on your resume, LinkedIn, and various social networking sites.

My first day at the General Assembly was quite disorganized for me. I was so late and absolutely clueless. Apparently, all delegates were to refer to themselves in the 3rd person, which might seem so easy in words, but try it in action! We were to avoid using phrases like “I,” “mine” — personal pronouns basically. Instead, you were to refer to yourself as “the delegate of XYZ (your country).” I referred to myself as the delegate of Singapore. So I was assigned by RUIMUN to be under the committee ECOFIN (Economic and Financial Committee), which is the Second Committee of the United Nations General Assembly.

The main things you must know as a newbie are (I might be spoiling all the fun for you by sharing this, so give room for fun):
• Roll Call!! This is important to note because it is taken to check the attendance of delegates. When your assigned country’s name is called, all you need to do is simply reply with a “present” while raising your placard. The agenda of the meeting, along with your allocated country and committee and study guides, will be emailed to you after you finish paying the registration fee.
• General Speakers List: When the committee begins, the chairs will create a list of delegates who wish to give speeches. I volunteered to speak — which was a very bold move, but I’m glad I did, because it was fun and challenging to me. I would highly recommend you take bold moves. I wrote on how to be bold — see letter here.
• Position Paper is also highly important too, and this was the highlight for me because I won an awarddd!! Which was so heartwarming. I love writing, and I decided to participate in the position paper because I was like wow, another chance to be creative, and it was fun for me too.The position pa It will help you gain insights. It shouldn’t be longer than 2 pages.
• Moderated Caucus is also a term used in MUN events. Here, the general speakers list is set aside and the speakers are called upon by the chair. The name of my own group was The Ambassadors. Basically, the delegates speak on different sub-agendas of the main agenda. There’s also the Unmoderated Caucus, but I don’t want to bore you with all that.

What I also found really creative and thoughtful was that on the last day of the committee meeting, we passed our placards to one another and wrote something sweet about each other. I later found out they do that every year which I think was the most amazing thing ever.

Stars, RUIMUN is an exceptional, mind-shifting, fun, and beautiful experience that you should definitely have a taste of. I would recommend you add that to your list of fun things to do in life or events to attend and give it a try. Try not to miss out on the fun and also the wonderful opportunity to meet people and solve global issues too.

I would have loved to continue writing to you, but my ink has failed me again. Still, I’ll write to you again soon. I hope you’re already planning to attend another MUN program.

Rooting for you always.

With love,
Rejiwritess.

Hi Stars,

I missed you so much. If I could choose what peace means to me in this world, it would be to write to you on a beach every day.

How have you been lately? I hope you’re taking good care of yourself. Hope you're taking good care of your body too?

Lately, I have been battling with my life — just trying to round up my program and graduate from school and all. But thank God, God is always with me.

I want to share with you today how to be bold like a lion.

For a very long time, I was very afraid of the unknown, of the future, and other things. I saw something one day, it was a post. It read: "If you’re not afraid, you haven’t started the battle." I’m paraphrasing now, but you get my point. What that statement is trying to say is: it’s okay to be afraid. Fear can come, but what do you do with it? You go boldly even in the midst of fear.

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Scripture tells us: “Don’t ever be afraid or discouraged, be strong and courageous, for the Lord is going to do this to all of your enemies.” – Joshua 10:25

This is why Scripture always reminds us that we shouldn’t be afraid, because He knows that fear will come. But you should remember that He is with you, and He is on your side.

Boldness is required if you must face the adversary. You must understand your authority as a child of God.

Remember, Scripture tells us: “The wicked run away when no one is chasing them, but the godly are as bold as lions.” – Proverbs 28:1 As a follower of Jesus, you need to be as bold as a lion because Jesus is going to tell you to do bold things.

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The question I have for you is: Are you willing to be bold enough to pray for boldness? Not for an easy or comfortable or healthy or admired life, but for a life of witness?

Look at this scripture: “And now, Lord, look upon their threats and grant to your servants to continue to speak your word with all boldness”… and when they had prayed, the place in which they were gathered together was shaken, and they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and continued to speak the word of God with boldness.” – Acts 4:29, 31 (ESV)

The Lord will give you boldness to do His work most especially. So, will you daily make the prayer of the early church your own, asking that by God’s Spirit, you would be filled and emboldened to share His gospel, whatever the cost, with a world that is desperate for truth?

How to be bold like a lion:

1. To be bold like a lion, you need to stand firm in your faith, acting with courage and conviction, particularly when facing challenges or opposition. – 1 Corinthians 16:13

2. You must have an intimate relationship with the Holy Spirit and live a life of holiness. – Luke 1:75, 1 Peter 1:15

3. Be confident in your righteousness through Christ. Remember that your boldness is not based on your own strength but on your relationship with Jesus. – Romans 8:14

4. Obey the instructions of God, read His Word, and live by it. – Psalm 33:11

5. Continually pray in tongues for boldness. – Acts 4:29, 31

6. Live a purposeful life and continually seek God’s guidance and direction for your life. – Psalm 69:32, Psalm 27:8, Luke 12:31

God’s got you, always.

Will continue to love and pray for you,

Rejiwritess

Xx

How have you been since my last letter to you? How’s life treating you? How’s July? It’s almost coming to an end, so excited!!! July has been a calm month, and I’m hoping it ends with even much more beautiful memories.

I pondered for a while—what should I share with you today? It can be a lot to write, you know, but here I am writing to you because you are special to me and you need to read this.

So let me share some interesting thoughts about a particular quotient: Emotional Intelligence (EQ). I don’t know why some people feel once they have the other quotients, they’re good to go. That’s not something to be comfortable in—for the life we live, you will meet people with different personalities, and for good communication skills and relationships, you have to understand their emotions and read the room too.

Someone like me—I am very emotional, so when speaking to me, you have to be very careful with the words you say. And I am very sure there are many people like me out there who are feelers, who easily read your emotions before you even say it.

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This just takes me back to the day of my thanksgiving. So, my makeup got ruined because I had cried a bit, and then thankfully, my friend was still getting ready, so I stopped by her makeup artist. And this lady was so emotionally intelligent, she immediately noticed something was wrong and she asked me if I was good. And thank God I was truthful to myself, I told her I wasn’t. What I’m trying to say is—she didn’t just brush off that I wasn’t fine; she asked, cared, and offered help.

Some people don’t have that intelligence at all. Even a random text message, or checking to know how the person is doing, they just don’t think that far or try to put themselves in the other party’s shoes to know how they’re feeling. I was once like that—always concerned about me, myself, and I. But honestly, it didn’t take me far. And thank God for self-awareness, which helped me to gradually get out of that and build my EQ.

I don’t want you thinking building your EQ is of no importance. That’s why I’ll share with you practical ways to do that.

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How do you build emotional intelligence:

1. Look out for when you’re very emotional. Look at the patterns or behaviors to your triggers. (You can’t control the things that happen to you, but you can control the way you respond to them.) Reflect on them and ask yourself if there’s a way I could’ve handled it better.

2. Respond, not react. When something is triggered, try texting in person. Take a minute, bring yourself to a neutral mindset before giving a response. (Neutral: gratitude mindset, write or walk.)

3. Understand that everyone is going through something, so never take anything personal.

4. Learn to give people the benefit of doubt. Give people grace.

5. Not every problem needs your solution. Learn to read the mood. Sometimes people just want to vent—just be aware of what they want. Figure out what people need.

6. Learn to understand non-verbal communication (55% body language, 30% tone of voice).

7. Always try to picture being in their shoes so you can relate and know how to act, and what to say.

I hope this letter helps you in one way or the other. Remember, don’t be too hard on yourself. Building your EQ takes time, so as you’re giving others grace, learn to give yourself grace too.

Still here.
Still hoping.
Still rooting for you.

With love always,
Rejiwritess.

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