time to lean

TIME TO CONNECT CANCELLED TODAY!

Crystal Britt, LCSW — Fri, 15 May 2026 17:05:35 GMT

Hey everyone! As Laura and I figure out what’s next for Time to Lean, we’re taking a break from Time to Connect. We were supposed to meet today but we are cancelling it. We will be pausing all paid subscriptions for now as well. If you have any questions please feel free to comment here or message me (Crystal).

[No Ads] what can we learn when we revisit couples therapy classics?

Laura Danger — Fri, 10 Apr 2026 17:46:53 GMT

Have you heard of the Gottman Institute? The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is a wildly popular relationship book and it has plenty of fantastic insights. However, some of the research and case studies could use some updating. In this episode, we take a close look at conflict while keeping in mind the weight of emotional labor and the impacts…

what can we learn when we revisit couples therapy classics?

Crystal Britt, LCSW — Fri, 10 Apr 2026 17:44:15 GMT

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The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD

The Autism Partner Handbook: How to Love an Autistic Person by Joe Biel, Dr. Faith G. Harper and Elly Blue

The Autism Relationships Handbook: How to Thrive in Friendships, Dating, and Love by Joe Biel and Dr. Faith G. Harper

Study:

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In this episode:

Relationship conflict patterns and Gottman's research

Gendered communication and systemic issues

Neurodivergence and emotional regulation in relationships

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Themes: relationship dynamics, conflict resolution, Gottman Institute, gender theory, neurodivergence, communication, mental load, emotional labor, systemic gender issues, relationship advice

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[No Ads] S1 Ep 129 when does teasing turn toxic?

Laura Danger — Wed, 14 Jan 2026 17:04:23 GMT

In this episode, we share a “candid” video from a couple who are having a serious convo in a #couplescomedy tone. We unpack emotional attunement, family dynamics and the impact of social media on all of us.

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when does teasing turn toxic?

Crystal Britt, LCSW — Wed, 14 Jan 2026 17:03:44 GMT

In this episode, we share a "candid" video from a couple who are having a serious convo in a #couplescomedy tone. We unpack emotional attunement, family dynamics and the impact of social media on all of us.

Mentioned in this episode:

No More Mediocre by Laura Danger is in stores on January 6, 2026! Enter here for a chance to win an early copy!

Don’t miss Crystal’s upcoming groups! More info here!

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Where have we been? 😅

Laura Danger — Wed, 26 Nov 2025 18:02:34 GMT

Hellloooooo!

Crystal and I kinda went dark there for a minute. Not that you were worried, but rest assured, all is well! Just too much to do and not enough time or energy to get it all done. Below, you’ll find more info about some of the things we’ve been getting into!

No More Mediocre: A Call to Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More comes out on January 6th!
- My publisher is giving away early copies of the finished book. Enter the giveaway here! It ends in 12 days!!
- You can preorder a signed copy from Women & Children First in Chicago.
- Preorder from ANYWHERE and you can redeem an exclusive downloadable resource. (If you preordered a while ago, make sure to submit your info on this website so you get your download. It will NOT be sent to you unless you submit info.)
- The book launch event will be on Thursday, January 8th, at 7 pm at Women & Children First at 5233 N Clark St, Chicago, IL 60640
Crystal is running an AWESOME autism self-diagnosis group. If you’ve ever wondered if you might be autistic, this group is for you! A formal evaluation isn’t accessible to everyone. Not everybody WANTS a formal evaluation. Some folks may want to gather more information about themselves and/or the autism diagnosis process before deciding what they want or need. This group is for folks exploring any and all things autism self-diagnosis. Find more info about it here!

We posted a new episode today! Listen to it wherever you get your podcasts! Subscribe for ad-free episodes. :)

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We hope y’all are doing well. Thanks for being here.

<3 Laura and Crystal

when does modeling better balance become capitalizing on the issue of inequity?

Crystal Britt, LCSW — Wed, 26 Nov 2025 17:20:35 GMT

In this episode, we explore the line between sharing personal growth and capitalizing on the widespread normalization of inequity. When does modeling a more equitable division of labor go from influencing a cultural shift to patting yourself on the back?

Mentioned in this episode:

No More Mediocre by Laura Danger is in stores on January 6, 2026! Enter here for a chance to win an early copy!

Don’t miss Crystal’s Autism Self-Diagnosis Group, starting Dec 1st! More info here!

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[No Ads] S1 Ep 128 when does modeling better balance become capitalizing on the issue of inequity?

Laura Danger — Wed, 26 Nov 2025 17:18:15 GMT

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what if men were tricked into going to therapy?

Crystal Britt, LCSW — Wed, 08 Oct 2025 19:04:09 GMT

In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss an IG reel sent to us from a listener. Do men need to be tricked into going to therapy? What are some things that keep them from going? How do you even go about picking a therapist that’s right for you?

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[No Ads] S1 Ep 127 what if men were tricked into going to therapy?

Crystal Britt, LCSW — Wed, 08 Oct 2025 18:59:40 GMT

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[No Ads] S1 Ep 126 if i have to ask you to invite me, is it REALLY an invitation?

Laura Danger — Wed, 24 Sep 2025 04:29:30 GMT

In this episode, Laura and Crystal chat about a clip from the movie Knocked Up where Leslie Mann confronts Paul Rudd about his dishonesty around how he’s been using his time. We cover invisible labor, insidious inequity, subtle betrayals and so much more.

Here’s the link to the original video!

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if i have to ask you to invite me, is it REALLY an invitation?

Crystal Britt, LCSW — Wed, 24 Sep 2025 04:25:42 GMT

In this episode, Laura and Crystal chat about a clip from the movie Knocked Up where Leslie Mann confronts Paul Rudd about his dishonesty around how he's been using his time. We cover invisible labor, insidious inequity, subtle betrayals and so much more.

Here's the link to the original video!

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[No Ads] S1 Ep 125 is it funny to have to be begged to do the dishes?

Laura Danger — Wed, 10 Sep 2025 05:02:16 GMT

In this episode, we discuss a viral thread where a woman describes a metaphor for her entire relationship: a situation where she asked for more and was expected to be satisfied with less. We talk: self-sacrifice, relationship dynamics, small moments that really reflect big issues.

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i asked for two, but he got me one—am i supposed to be okay with less... everyday... for the rest of my life?

Crystal Britt, LCSW — Wed, 10 Sep 2025 05:01:00 GMT

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Time to Connect's monthly schedule!

Laura Danger — Tue, 26 Aug 2025 14:37:37 GMT

For the last year or so, we’ve been hosting weekly virtual meet-ups, and it’s been so wonderful getting to know so many of you! We want to keep these meetings going while adjusting to shifting capacity, so we’re moving to a monthly schedule.

These meetings are a space to connect with others, to share, listen, and troubleshoot. It’s a closed space that won’t be recorded! Paid subscribers can find the registration link below.

[No Ads] S1 Ep 124 is it funny to have to be begged to do the dishes?

Laura Danger — Wed, 13 Aug 2025 05:14:06 GMT

In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about a viral video that makes light of the dynamic of "nagging". Join us as we consider not just what happens when you "ask a man to do the dishes", but what the jokes of the #couplescomedy genre actually teach us to laugh off.

Mentioned:

Revolution at Point Zero

The original video

Paris Paloma - Labour

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is it funny to have to be begged to do the dishes?

Crystal Britt, LCSW — Wed, 13 Aug 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Mentioned:

Revolution at Point Zero

The original video

Paris Paloma - Labour

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[No Ads] S1 Ep 123 was 'marriage story' cis-het propaganda?

Crystal Britt, LCSW — Wed, 06 Aug 2025 05:01:44 GMT

In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the 2019 Netflix film, ‘Marriage Story,’ which starred Adam Driver and Scarlett Johansson. A popular clip is circulating on social media again and made us wonder: with all the passing of responsibility and finger-pointing and tantruming—was it all just cis-het propaganda??

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was 'marriage story' cis-het propaganda?

Crystal Britt, LCSW — Wed, 06 Aug 2025 05:00:00 GMT

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Pre-Order Laura’s Book! – No More Mediocre
Laura’s Substack Article from Last Episode
Scarlett Longstreet's Instagram Post: “Five Things I Wish I Knew Before Getting Divorced”

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[No Ads] S1 Ep 122 would you leave someone on read for being too available?

Laura Danger — Wed, 30 Jul 2025 05:01:34 GMT

This week, we’re digging into a few clips from @leftonread_show that had us feeling things! We talk about what it means to be “cool" and whether or not the host's advice to play hard to get is ACTUALLY good advice. A lighthearted one today. <3

Let’s get into it.

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